I've been thinking about cutting off my friend group
I'm in a friend group with 4 other people and recently they have been pretty toxic. It mainly started when all of our mental health started to spiral down together and we started self harming together and stuff (I know it's horrible.) Once we all got caught (in December 2025) things have gone downhill. One of my friends (let's just call him Jay) has started getting really irritable and is constantly lashing out at people. (mainly me) He has also said that he plans to off himself. I've also noticed that he seems to take everything as a personal attack. If I accidentally interrupted him he will get all mad and act like he is some sort of victim. One day he was really angry and I made a stupid joke which I shouldn't of done and he told me I should go harm myself. When I brought it up in a later conversation he said I somehow suggested it so it was my fault. He has also made fun of my dead grandma and said I had a bad mother .(which I do not I love my mom) There is also this other guy in our friendgroup. (let's call him J) So Jay and J have been getting really close and they have started to talk bad about the sweetest girl in our friendship group. (call her T) they keep calling her annoying and too nice. A few months back j and Jay have literally talked bad about eachother to me and now they are all close. T and this other girl S haven't really done anything wrong. The main reason why I don't wanna cut them off is because they know all of my trauma and Jay would definitely use that against me and they all have bad mental health. I just don't wanna be a jerk. I've been thinking about this since probably February but I'm too scared to confess my feelings to them about it.