u/Admecadic

I am almost 30 with barely any friends. If I die tomorrow nobody except my parents and one friend (maybe) will even notice or care. I am the invisible man at my office. All I want is one genuine connection. I just want some to choose me or be with me and notice me. I just want some to ask me or include me when they are making plans to go to the happy hour or out for the weekend.

My co-workers literally make plans to go out with each other while sitting next to me and pretend I don't even exist. I lose a bit of my strength and will to live everyday and don't know how long I can take it.

I apologize for the long post.

Iam an introvert, lack confidence and almost 3OM. It has always been difficult for me to make friends, have difficulty starting small talk and conversations. I have one real friend (at least think so). have never been with anyone my entire life and it seems like never will. have been trying to make friends at my office but to no success. try to have non work related casual conversations, ask my co workers to grab lunch or coffee together but it hardly works. Whenever my co workers make plans to meet outside (like for happy hour or going somewhere on the weekends together) I never get asked. can hear them making plans, see their stories on insta and all can think is why am I never included. Sometimes I will leave my desk for a while and go for a coffee run so don't have to hear them making plans. There is this one co worker who would talk to me because we sat beside each other but in December of last year our seating arrangement got changed and now we only barely talk. Also due to restructuring a few new people were added in our team and suddenly she is best friends with them. go to her desk sometimes to have a conversation but she is always busy somehow. am not rude or abrasive, just shy and unfortunately have nothing to offer to anyone. I don't think my life will ever change, I over think about being lonely and being left out all the time, can barely sleep, can't afford therapy and just don't know what to do. The only people talk to (non work related) on a regular basis are my parents who live in a different country. If die tomorrow no one except my parents and a few family members will care or even notice. I just don't know what can do to improve my situation. Weekends are the worst since I rarely have any human interactions. I have TV on all the time so I don't feel alone at home. am not suicidal but genuinely don't know what is the point living such a life. Sometimes when I am on the street I wish that some freak accident will happen and get a quick pain free death and almost every night I wish that I don't wake up tomorrow. can't take it anymore and just don't know what to do.

I am an introvert, lack confidence and almost 30M. It has always been difficult for me to make friends, I have difficulty starting small talk and conversations. I have one real friend (at least I think so). I have never been with anyone my entire life and it seems like I never will. I have been trying to make friends at my office but to no success. I try to have non work related casual conversations, ask my co workers to grab lunch or coffee together but it hardly works. Whenever my co workers make plans to meet outside (like for happy hour or going somewhere on the weekends together) I never get asked. I can hear them making plans, see their stories on insta and all I can think is why am I never included. Sometimes I will leave my desk for a while and go for a coffee run so I don't have to hear them making plans.

There is this one co worker who would talk to me because we sat beside each other but in December of last year our seating arrangement got changed and now we only barely talk. Also due to restructuring a few new people were added in our team and suddenly she is best friends with them. I go to her desk sometimes to have a conversation but she is always busy somehow. I am not rude or abrasive, just shy and unfortunately have nothing to offer to anyone. I don't think my life will ever change, I over think about being lonely and being left out all the time, can barely sleep, can't afford therapy and I just don't know what to do. The only people I talk to (non work related) on a regular basis are my parents who live in a different country. If I die tomorrow no one except my parents and a few family members will care or even notice. I just don't know what I can do to improve my situation. Weekends are the worst since I rarely have any human interactions. I have TV on all the time so I don't feel alone at home. I am not suicidal but genuinely don't know what is the point living such a life. Sometimes when I am on the street I wish that some freak accident will happen and I get a quick pain free death and almost every night I wish that I don't wake up tomorrow. I can't take it anymore and just don't know what to do.

I apologize for the long post.