u/Admirable-Try8083

So yesterday we were out getting food, and she saw this boy around her age. Keep in mind my baby girl isn’t used to playing with other kids and now she is because my brother is her age. He’s older than her by 6 months. So she plays with him and my 10 year old and 12 year old sister more often now because I started going to my mom’s house more.

Anyways, she saw a boy her age and since she’s very not shy around other kids anymore, she said hi to him
And tried to kiss him!! I give her kisses on her cheeks a lot and she gives my mom and siblings kisses but it was funny
To me how I raised her with kisses as a love language. I didn’t let her kiss him though of course but his mom didnt get upset at me or her. The boy was kind of shy but did try to wave hi to her and kept trying to get her attention to play but she kept running back and forth and he seemed more chill and calm.

As adorable as it is, how do i teach her that kisses are for family right now and not friends or strangers. Shes also delayed a bit. She can understand some things but still cant speak clearly but can say some words.

I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant. I have a 2 year old daughter that I love so so much. When I was pregnant with her I didn’t think I could love her. She was conceived thru SA. But I love her so much and I’m upsetting myself right now because I don’t think I can love another child as much as I love her. I’ll never abuse or neglect my new baby and won’t show favoritism but I know deep down my daughter is who I love. I don’t know if I’m able to love them both. I know myself to only be able to do one thing at a time in life.

I want my unborn baby and don’t want to give him up. I know I’ll spoil him just as much and won’t treat them any different. But how do I get myself to love him just as much as I love my daughter. I don’t want to fake it. I want to actually feel it. I feel guilty for my daughter because she’s not going to be the only baby anymore. She’s also autistic and has a speech delay. She’s learning words but doesn’t pronounce them properly but speaks in her baby language still.

Is this normal to feel guilty for not keeping her as the only baby? Part of me wants to keep both but a bigger part of me only wants it to be me and her. I sometimes think to myself I’ll love him the same way I learned to love her. But I really don’t know. When I was pregnant with her I learned to love her close to the end of my pregnancy. I’m currently the same week I was with her where I learned to love her and I’m not feeling it with him. I’m just not. I want to and I feel bad because he didn’t ask to be here. But what do I do?

Do the feelings change?

My daughter is 2 years old. Whenever I pick her up while she’s asleep, she does the newborn scrunch still. Is she supposed to have already grown out of it? I think it’s adorable honestly. Anyone else’s toddler do this?

I honestly feel like if I’m paying $2700 a month for rent at my apartment, $2000 a month for daycare $300 for BGE, not in debt at all, got my first credit card last year on my 21st birthday but my bank shows I make payments on time and how much I make working my jobs, after paying all my bills I have $2000 saved, and have never been late in the last 2 years, that I should be able to get a loan for a house and pay a mortgage and own my home. I was told by my bank that because of my age, and lack of credit history, that I wouldn’t qualify and that usually people my age are trustworthy with money anyways. I’m still in college but work a really great job and have my own business on the side, and i don’t even pay for my own schooling.

What do I do? Am I stuck for the next 10 years? I just want my own house. I know about repairs and all that and don’t have to worry about that because I have money saved for that, and I’m ready. I want my own home, I want something to pass down to my daughter. I also don’t want to be paying almost $3000 for an apartment when that could go to a house.

I don’t really care if someone tips me or not, I’ll just accept high paying offers. But my issue is when they give a tip, and then take it back after delivery is completed. No issues with the food, all handled with care, and me keeping my AC off just to keep their food warm. It’s only upsetting me bc it puts my card in the negative. I can’t overdraft on my crimson card. Wouldn’t even let me go over 1 cent. I’ve tried. So when it’s in the negative, there’s literally only one explanation, a customer removed their tip. I make sure to follow all instructions and even while being pregnant again (just found out I was and thought I was just gaining weight. But nope, 7 months pregnant) I still walk up those flights of stairs, make sure their sauces are in the bag and all of that. This shouldn’t be a thing.

Unless there’s something else I’m unaware of. But I literally can’t even spend more than what I have on my crimson card. It won’t allow me.