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FTM. My baby just turned a month (wow). And I know everyone says it’ll get better. And I know it does. And I know it’s different for everyone. But when?

My baby currently is in the phase where we only want contact naps. And I know one day I’ll miss them but it’s hard to do anything with baby losing their mind and screaming so much they almost stop breathing ? And it just breaks my heart and my spirit a bit. But, a girl has to eat and pee and shower.

Also, maybe just struggling a bit mentally which I’m sure everyone deals with some crazy emotions ?
Like, when my baby is screaming and crying and I’ve tried all the things to calm them down and it’s not working (and if it’s been happening on and off all day) I feel like I’m failing my baby and I’m failing as a mom. Is that a ‘normal’ postpartum feeling ? My husband is worried that I feel that way. And I feel so bad that my husband and is worrying about me. Which I feel like adds to some of the mental load ? Like, I had moments where I feel like I’m failing as a mother and then my husband worrying has me feeling like I’m failing as a wife also maybe kinda ??

And my husband is fantastic. Honestly truly. He’s not doing or saying anything that’s making me feel that way or anything. I think it’s just my own mental issue I mean, Idk what I would do or how I would survive these trenches without him.

However, these trenches have been rough. And my husband did say we might just be one and done (which we wanted 2-3 kids originally) just because he said he never hears anything good about the baby. Now I’m not sitting around talking smack about my baby. Or at least not purposefully. I think I just more so try to give him updates throughout the day and usually it is after something happens (like we only want to sleep on mom. If we’re not on mom we’re screaming bloody murder) but to me that an update versus ‘we’re sleeping soundly like a perfect little angel’ and I’m aware I should/could be giving updates like that. But in my mind those aren’t updates really ? Like, he isn’t doing anything but sleeping ? So when I change his diaper and he pees all over himself I’ll let my husband know. Because that’s something that has occurred. But maybe that’s unfair.

But all of that rambling to ask when do things start getting significantly better ? Im trying to take it day by day but that light at the end of the tunnel seems pretty far away

for the occasional lazy days? if so what brand ? 13m toddler

Volví a tocar el tema con mi madre, el motivarla a tener su only fans, sigue con la idea que ella no se animaría, siento que no se siente suficiente para mostrarse, comencé a hacerle cumplidos a decirle que es muy hermosa y a sembrar la intriga que si mi papá pudiera hacerlo o serle infiel, no lo pensaría, esto con la intención de motivarla.

Ayer platicando con ella le mostré ejemplos de cómo podrían ser las primeras fotos, le mostré fotos boudior muy bonitas, pero me dice que son atrevidas que no cree animarse, yo sigo insistiendo me dijo que lo pensaría.

Al final de la plática me dijo que mejor le pedirá ayuda a una amiga para tomarle las fotos, a lo que le dije que no sería bueno, porque iban a saber de su idea y podrían usarlo en su contra a lo que acepto.

Dijo que lo pensaría pero creo que poco a poco va cediendo a la idea de tomarle fotos y grabarla en contenido

Una de las fotos ejemplo que le envié es desde pov de la chica tomándole fotos a sus piernas estiradas muy sexy a lo que me dijo yo tengo una así y me la mostró, se le veían las piernas súper ricas, jamás pensé que me fuera a decir que tiene una foto igual y menos mostrarla, por eso estoy creyendo que voy por buen camino y acceda.

Mi intención es ya en confianza comenzar a decirle comentarios para que se ponga cachonda acepté coger conmigo y grabar ese contenido.

Pobre pendejo de mi papá ni se imagina que me voy a coger a su mujer.

My boys are great boys for the most part minus the constant fighting, wrestling, and yelling.

When they were younger it was easier to control and stop etc.

As they as are getting older it’s getting harder to stop and they don’t listen at times.

I feel like I’m failing as a mom. Help me with any advice you learned from raising kids around this age

I was an only child growing up so I don’t really have an idea at times with this situation and kind of thing.

For context: My partner (24M) and I (24F) have a 11 month old baby. We live at his mums house and visit my parents on the weekends so we never really get ‘alone time’ or even time for the 3 of us as a family on our own. We are always around other people which can make me miss spending quality time with my bf.

I’m also a SAHM so I look after our baby everyday while he and his goes to work- it feels a bit lonely sometimes.
Not only do I do everything for our baby during the morning and day but I also cover nights too without him ever helping so I get only a few hours of sleep each night. Oh and I’m also expected to do house work like wash the dishes, laundry, hoover and so on for the whole house home while they’re at work and I’ll be honest I don’t always do it- sometimes I’m too exhausted but it’s always a problem when I don’t because to them it feels as though I’m not allowed to burn out or feel exhausted.
I can never really bring up any concerns or talk to him about me being upset because we’re never really alone and if we are it’s early in the morning while he’s getting ready for work or night time when he goes to bed and I’m not allowed to talk to him because he’s got work in the morning otherwise I’m a “sleep thief” and “don’t care about his sleep”.

We’ve also had a few problems this year with me feeling a bit neglected within the relationship and not really feeling loved enough. He struggles to show it to me, he can say it but doesn’t do any actions to even show he cares let alone loves me, no dates, no flowers, no compliments unless I initiate him to say something, nada. I meant I get our lives are different since having our baby and that’s draining in itself but does that really mean you just stop showing up for the relationship?
So I suppose I’ve been feeling a little resentful, lonely and overwhelmed by everything.

Fast forward to this week, we’ve come to my parents house for the week or two so that I can start preparing for our almost 1 yr olds birthday party :). I miss staying at home, I don’t feel at home at his mums house really but it’s close to his work- this week he’s been commuting into work which is about an 1hour 45min each way.
Which brings me to last night!
My parents were out for the night to go to a concert together so it was just us and our baby. I thought finally some time we can spend together, man was I wrong.
I had spent the afternoon preparing home made pizzas and making sure dinner was nice. I had music on and was in a good mood. When he came in he assumed my friends were over because of the music so his mood was a bit… hesitant I guess? Idk
The pizzas were still in the oven when he had arrived so he decided to put up the gazebo that had just arrived- he continued to stay outside and do that until I had called him for dinner. Dinner was nice but immediately after he went back out to finish it even though it was already up and was apparently on ft to his mum the whole time while he left me to put the baby to sleep and tidy up the kitchen on my own…
After this I tried talking to him about how I’d appreciate if he was to help me but mid way the baby woke up and he went to get her back to sleep in the middle of me talking. Once I had finished I went upstairs and they were both asleep. So yeah great night…

Am I overreacting for being upset over this?

Hello all,

First of all, I know I fucked up royally. So please dont come at me for it. I feel terrible about it enough and I’m looking for some guidance and advice on what to do as I think I ruined everything for my toddler.

My 3, almost 4 year old almost toddler is potty trained and has been for months now. That is until two weeks ago I was told he had a poop accident at preschool while playing. I didn’t acknowledge it since figured it was an occasional slip up. Then after that week, he had poop accidents three more times. Then he was fine on the weekend, used the potty every time. Now this week so far, he pooped again at preschool twice. And last night he did it again, told him he needs to listen to his body.

Happened again tonight and he was fighting his father (my husband) as he tried to put him in the shower to clean him. He was screeching at top of his lungs that he didn’t want to do a shower. I was bathing his younger sibling in the same bathroom when this occurred. They started to cry so I took them out of the bathroom, dressed and put down.

I went back to check to see if my husband needed help. Of course the toddler was still screaming, stomping while my poor husband was trying not to get smeared with his poop.

I lost my cool and screamed at him that he was being a baby and that if he wants to poop in his underwear then it’s time to go back to diapers. I took his ruined underwear and threw in the trash in front of him.

Now he won’t look at me and told his father that him pooping means I’m mad. I know I fucked up. I don’t know what to do. I feel terrible but I’m so exhausted and tired. We have done everything to potty train him, watching ms Rachel, Elmo, Daniel tiger potty videos, potty books he picked out in store, rewards, cool new underwear etc etc. I just don’t get it. We’ve been at this for over a year now.

How do I salvage our relationship? How do I get his trust back? And how should I approach this situation? How do I get him to poop in the potty?

Hi. I just want to first and foremost apologize from the bottom of my heart for my actions over the last 17 YEARS… I know you’re probably thinking what could you have possibly have been doing that’s so terrible for 17 years straight and no one’s caught you?? I’ll tell you. Scrolling Facebook in substitute of Pornography.

I won’t go into details as to how I stumbled into this horrible “addiction” but I will tell you this. It starts young and quick. It started out in grade school having crushes and liking girls and the normal flow of puberty but, with the rise of social media and people not being very aware and conscious of exactly what they are posting and who can see it, this flow can be heavily distorted. As it was for me.

Let me explain. I am sorry for the language in this next part but it must be said. So, for all this time that Facebook has been around, Gooners as Gen A would call them have been lurking, indulging, edging, and full out gooning to your flashy pics and bikini post. Grandmas, aunts, sisters, moms, cousins, daughters and so forth.

With this being said, yeah, these people are some S tier sickos preying on people they know and randoms as well. I will take my shame for it. I have vowed to not step into that darkness after this is posted. But I cannot speak for others.

Over my years of partaking in this travesty I have noticed something horrible and unmentioned by relatively anyone. The amount of you that have your children posted is alarming. I’m not talking about family photos at Macys either.

I’m talking about them being at the beach or pool… like the same way I’ve accessed your family members pictures above, their photos are posted too and I had a horrible thought that must be addressed.

What if as people are preying on you, someone even sicker is preying on your children’s pics? It is so accessible that it scares me. I’m not sure if you believe in Conviction but this has been weighing on me for sometime now.

Please take the time to cleanup your social medias. I am tired of living in a generation where things like this are normalized.

Did you think people stop at the “Instagram Models” posting these pics and videos constantly pushing them towards lust?

I was raised in eastern European country and kissing young kids on a mouth by their immediate family was seen as normal as I was growing up.

I am now pregnant and talked to my mum about that. I mentioned that for me as a child it was just uncomfortable and confusing at times and don’t want/ see a reason to do it.

My mum insists that I will feel different when the child is born. Anyways, I was just curious about the stance of other moms on the matter. Is it weird or normal for you to kiss kids on their lips?

I'm so done with Amazon's fake baby product discounts and I need to vent.

Last week I was shopping for a stroller. Found one listed at $349 with a big red badge screaming 32% OFF! ORIGINALLY $515! Felt like I was winning. Did the responsible parent thing and checked the price history on CamelCamelCamel. Guess what? That stroller has never been $515. Ever. Not once. Its normal price for the past six months has been $349. Amazon just made up the "original price" to make me think I was getting a deal.

I started checking everything after that. The baby monitor I almost bought? Listed as LIMITED TIME DEAL - 40% OFF! but the price had been exactly the same for three months. The sound machine showing $59.99, WAS $89.99? Never sold for $89.99 on Amazon. The car seat with the Lightning Deal badge? Same price as last week, just with a fake countdown timer to make me panic-buy.

And don't even get me started on the third-party seller nightmare. You think you're buying from a trusted brand, but half the time it's some random seller with a sketchy name shipping knockoff products that could literally be dangerous for your baby. CNN literally crash-tested a fake car seat from Amazon and it failed safety standards, but it was listed right there next to real ones with Amazon's blessing.

I feel like I'm taking a business degree just to figure out if a baby product is actually safe, actually on sale, or actually real. It shouldn't be this hard.

The worst part is that there ARE real deals on Amazon hidden promo codes, clippable coupons, actual discounts buried in pages you'd never find unless you're actively hunting. But Amazon makes those invisible while plastering fake DEAL! badges everywhere to trick you into thinking you're saving money.

I've started using Dealseek, which I found on IG, to find actual promo codes because I can't trust anything Amazon shows me anymore. The deals are fake. The limited time urgency is manufactured. And the third-party sellers are a complete gamble on whether you're getting safe products or counterfeit junk.

I'm buying baby stuff, not playing detective. But here we are.

Does anyone else feel like Amazon has completely destroyed any trust in their pricing? Or am I just being paranoid after spending too much time reading horror stories about fake baby products?

Hi everyone.. i’m 23 with 2 kids. (3 and 1) I stay at home with them and honestly wake up everyday irritated and with the worst attitude to my kids and husband. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I have extreme anxiety but other than that i dont know. I have the shortest fuse, I can’t stand the constant questions, needing something every second of the day, like i love them so much and when i “get a break” i miss them so much. I get irritated that im irritated and get mad that i have an attitude for no reason. I do nurse my son still and he’s constantly crying at my feet to nurse. I try to give him a snack but doesn’t always work. My 3 year old talks all day long which love that she’s smart but i feel like i can’t breathe sometimes with everything. I’m just sad i feel like i stress my kids out, that im just the dark cloud in the family, I really try not to be i don’t know what to do. I need to do better. I will take any suggestions. Thank you :(

I have extreme fatigue and achy pain 4 months postpartum. I just feel exhausted all the time and I can hardly wake up in the mornings.

I’m 4 months postpartum, I had my son January 9th at 31 weeks. I spent 10 weeks at RMDH near the hospital where he was in the NICU until his due date March 12th. I had him close to my first, they’re 16 months apart. The past few weeks I’ve felt worse fatigue. I feel so exhausted. I struggle to wake up in the mornings even though I get like 8-9 hours of sleep. My legs, hips/pelvis, and lower back hurt so badly most of the time. I feel like such a burden on my husband.

Has anyone else experienced this? What helped you?

Just want to ask the question do you think that I am overreacting or have I a point? my.son was in NICU for a few weeks over birth, it was unexpected. My first child was also in NICU. my husband was not allowed into NICU for our first child as it was covid. Anyway, my husband took time off to tlbe around after the birth of our second child but after 4 weeks went back to work. I begged him not to go back and to give it a bit of time. I was terrified. I had had no rest after birth as it was go go go with the hospital and our first has special needs. so I kept going. I got very bad pp anxiety throughout all of this. I was actively going out if my mind I was shouting crying, couldn't settle, just didnt want to be at home with children I was terrified. my husband told me that I was gone.nuts and to get help for my head. I have never forgiven him for that comment. I felt that in my time of need I was left to figure it out. he was more concerned with work I felt, he says someone had to go to work. I haven been at home about 5 years now. I gave up my career I worked hard at, I got a part.rime.job and had to give that up too when I got pregnant. I also gave up the opportunity to do a college course, very competitive, that I had tried for years to do and finally got accepted, but my.son was just about to be diagnosed autistic and we had no childcare. I went.on to have my second baby after that. is this just normal life, is this just want happens, we sacrifice for our children, our careers, opportunities, time, money etc. I also feel I sacrificed so that my husband would not feel hard done by and also.when it came to giving up a job to look after our son, my husband talked abput it but I actually did it. now granted I did want to spend that time at home with him and I dont regret it but I feel ive sacrificed alot and its not really appreciated. even.though my husband says he appreciates it. every time we get ito a fight about it he tell me to go.back to work if im.that miserable which just sets it off to me that im not appreciated.

Something happened an incident with police and my long distance bf doesnt even have access to a phone . U have to give the police your number to put it on the pin but idk if he even remembers it. I know he has probably called his mum so i was gonna send her a text saying

Btw this has happened before and she let me know how it works
This time its happened again but we have had arguments and im guessin hes being frosty with me
But im the type of women who reaches out first i dont really hold back but i will back away if the vibe is off

I was gonna say

Hey i hope your okay :)
I was wondering if (name) is okay , would you be able to give him my number as i want to speak to him

Would you be okay if i did to you as a mum? I havent met his mum yet. But he gave me her number we have spoken once or twice regarding him but thats it

Am i gonna sound demanding or would you not mind it?

Im asking because our relationship isnt a typical one otherwise id just text her , we has had ups and downs and we made up right before this incident do idk if hes just not ringing because our relationship is unclear rn and hes playing it cool doesnt wanna bother me or what

Is it desperate if i text this to her?

They’re so close to sleeping at the same time but just a bit off. Any tips or schedules? We are heading for divorce if we don’t get a break sometime soon 😅😭

I’m 36+5 today, going in for an induction tomorrow night at 8pm and I am so nervous! Baby is head down, his tummy is pretty swollen from me having late term GD which they didn’t catch until about 2 weeks ago😬 I am already 1cm dilated and they felt his head at my last appointment (Friday). I’m just so terrified, I have such a bad pain tolerance I cried and screamed when they swabbed me and did that first dilation check, it was so painful for me! I’m trying for unmedicated+vaginal birth seeing as how this is my first baby but I am not opposed to a c-section if necessary. Can I get some good induction stories/ birth stories with moms who had GD/unmedicated vaginal birth stories in the comments? Tiktok isn’t giving me good videos right now and I’m just getting more scared tbh!😵‍💫

Using a throwaway account for privacy reasons

The situation is as follows:

My best friend got unexpectedly pregnant by her boyfriend, we are barely adults and it was her first and only pregnancy so there arent any other kids in the picture. She ended up not giving birth but she still wanted that baby and it had taken a toll on her mental health. She is mouring the loss of her child and what could have been had things wents differently.

With the mothers day coming up in my country I thought giving her a small meaningfull gift could help make her feel better and reaffirm that her grief to losing a child is valid but at the same time I see that it could be very damaging and hurtfull instead.

So what do you think? Are there any women that went through a simmilar situation and what would you feel when recieving such a gift ? Also if I should get her something any ideas on what could it be?

My daughter is selected to her dream school and going to college this fall. We came to know about the bed party trend. It’s crazy how some people know all about it and others like me had no idea. Basically, mom and kid’s besties plan a surprise bed party where they decorate the kids room with their future college colors and college swag/merch along with regular balloons etc decor. I searched for bed party printables for the games/keepsake and found none. So, I made personalized ones for my daughter that would serve as game and keepsakes. Not sure if one is allowed to post stuff that one is selling as I’ve also made a Bed Party packet to sell on Etsy.

For context I had my daughter when I was just a teen. We grew up together. I was a college student when she was also starting school. She graduates high school in two weeks. I am in shambles as my entire routine for the past 13 years revolved around her and school. For many years everyone would ask when I would have more children and would proceed to ask what I would do once she was older.

Though I was firm on not wanting more kids, I have been reflecting on how quickly the years went by. I attended every field trip, class party, school play and parent meeting.

She will be attending college and will commute, meaning she will still live at home for the time being. I feel a bit dramatic being so sad about this but I’m reflecting on how many years went by and how many memories we created. I am happy for her to go on new adventures but I am also sad for me. Part of me feels like I’m losing a huge part of my identity. I was 16 when she was born and she is now older than me when I had her. All I can remember is being her mom. I don’t regret having only one child. I firmly believe the bond we have was built on our circumstances and she is truly the most amazing young woman.

How have you parents of only children coped with the idea of sending your baby off into the real world and how are you doing emotionally?

Hi all, I have an 8 year old girl and she’s never learned to swim. Have any of you successfully taught your older child? My parents taught me. That’s just how it was in the early 80s. I’m a single mom and I’m trying to avoid swim lessons, at least for now, because of the price. I want to get her comfortable in the water and I want her to be safe. I’d love to get her in to swim lessons and swim team eventually. Thank you!