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Hello all,

My 5 year old sons second day of kindergarten was today and at pick up I was informed by his teacher he had a really bad day. He was having meltdowns that were inconsolable by the teacher, teacher’s aides and the principal. They were so bad other kids were covering their ears. He was being unsafe with play-doh and scissors and that’s when the meltdowns started. His teacher said yesterday he had a couple of hiccups but they were able to move on. He’s never went to daycare or preK so this is his very first time ever. He does have meltdowns often and we think he’s ADHD (we’re going to get him evaluated). What can I do? How I calm him down is usually by holding him which I know they aren’t allowed to do. Sometimes we can talk him down but not always. I told them to call me tomorrow if they have issues. I just don’t know what to do. He didn’t get good sleep at all last night so that could’ve contributed also. He also won’t eat his lunch I packed him and I tell him he needs to eat when the other kids eat so he’s not hungry and he just hasn’t. Maybe that’s why he’s cranky as well. Please help, any support or advice?

have been together 8.5 years and been married for almost 5 years. We’ve had a rocky relationship over the years, I have trust issues from a past relationship and also my husband has done some shady ish. About 2 years into our relationship he was talking to his ex behind my back. She’d flirt with him but wouldn’t reciprocate from what I saw. There were also messages missing so idk for sure. Then about 3/4 years ago he was messaging escorts asking if they were available but it seemed like he never followed through, that’s also what he said. He said it was because we were always fighting and he wanted someone to talk to but I called bullsht. I’ve just took his word for it but now my trust is worse. I know it’s been years but that crap hurt me so bad. I have nothing of my own, not even a job so maybe I would’ve left if I did. I’m probably stupid for staying but things have been fine. We’ve been struggling financially this year and so we’ve been arguing more and all of that. Fast forward to today, he’s had Snapchat for almost 4 years. His snap score has been 179 for FOREVER and now it’s 229. Mind you he told me recently that he doesn’t use Snapchat because he thinks it’s stupid. If that’s the case why did his score go up? I feel so dumb but am I overthinking it? What should I do?

Edit to add: I know my trust issues are on me at this point, I’ve been looking into therapy.

I’m so freaking beyond frustrated right now. I could cry.
5 year old wouldn’t go to sleep til 12:30am then an hour and a half later my 17 month old wakes up and I would usually rock him in my recliner but my husband fell asleep in it waiting for my sheets and covers to be dry. It’s now nearly 5am and my toddler is still awake and I’m exhausted. Every time my toddler fell asleep he’d wake up crying a few minutes later despite being in my bed with me. I’m also pissed because now I’m in my chair because my husband woke up and went to our bed. He’s dirty getting in my clean sheets. And when I say he’s dirty I mean it. He hasn’t bathed in WEEKS AND WONT FUCKING DO IT. I’m pretty sure it’s been 3-4weeks. I told him he should’ve stayed in the chair because he has to be up for work at 6:30am. I also told him he’s dirty getting in the clean bed and he said “how am I dirty?” WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN HOW ARE YOU DIRTY???? DONT PISS ME OFF. I’m on the verge right now and I already know my goddamn sheets are going to stink in the morning and I’m gonna have to rewash them. I want to cry and scream but also sleep and I CANT DO ANY OF IT😭 oh and I’m supposed to start my period and I haven’t yet because my birth control got messed up last month and now it’s going to throw my period off 🫠

My husband is blue collar, whether it’s oilfield or being a mechanic or both. He’s always working of course but when he’s not working, he’s always helping people work on their cars or whatever they need (for free usually might I add) usually family. It’s hard because I feel like I’m raising our 2 kids by myself. He smokes 🍃 and today we talked about him getting clean so he can get a better paying job because right now we’re struggling bad. I can’t spend any money unless it’s necessary. I have to conserve gas for 2 weeks and my truck only gets 13.5 mpg and takes almost $80 to fill up. We can’t do anything fun I’m usually stuck at the house. Where I live I’m not allowed to have a swimming pool, swing set, or trampoline so we can’t have anything fun for the kids outside. I’m just so over it. It’s so lonely and I’ve been getting so aggravated with my kids that I feel like I’m going to explode. Even if my husband is home he usually doesn’t help with the kids. We had a fight a few days ago about his going outside and smoking and staying outside for majority of the night and since then he’s been a little bit better. He’s not home right now. He went to a buddies house because he’s giving us an AC for my son’s room but every day or every weekend he’s gone. We never spend actually any time together. I feel like I’m going to end up taking a grippy sock vaca. I try to be happy and I’m getting back on my meds to see if it’ll help my situation a little but I know it’ll only help so much. I feel stuck. No money, 2 kids, all alone.

And before anyone suggests this, me getting a job and sticking my kids in daycare isn’t an option. My oldest starts school next month and daycare is too expensive. I’ll be using all of my money just to keep them in it. I don’t have an education so getting a high paying job is kind of out the window.

I’m such an idiot. I just realized the movie “Not Another Teen Movie” is a freaking parody making fun of “She’s All That” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

**TW: depression, SI,SH,ED.**

I feel so empty. My two kids deserve better, my husband and I fight a lot due to stress about money. Sometimes I wish I could leave so then he’d be happier. I haven’t been able to work for 5 years since I started having kids because I lack childcare and daycare is far too expensive where I live. I want a job badly and I’m planning on going to GED classes this fall but sometimes I feel like that may be a waste of time. My husband had attempted to cheat on me in the past (as far as I know it was attempted) and sometimes I feel like he’s acting like he did in that time. Distant. I know he’s stressed, I get it. I hate this feeling. I’ve been in a depressive episode for quite some time now. My house isn’t dirty but isn’t spotless either. Yes, my kids are taken care of, but I’m not emotionally present. I don’t know how to play with them and wish I could just be left alone but that’s not fare to them. If I could sleep all day I would. I’ve not been eating very much and to be frank if I didn’t have to eat at all I wouldn’t. I don’t know if I’d classify it as an eating disorder or just disordered thinking but if I get diarrhea I feel happy for the moment because I feel like I’m purging everything in my body and I’m losing weight. I’ve lost like 12 pounds maybe more in a couple of weeks due to not eating very much. I drank coffee today hoping I could purge it and feel good. I used to cut myself fairly often and over the past 5 years it’s died down and I usually only relapse once a year but I’ve been struggling with wanting to recently. I don’t want my husband to see. He’s seen before and he of course doesn’t like it and has been disappointed. He’s done stuff my slap my thighs if I’ve done it there or squeeze my arms if he knows there’s cuts there. I don’t want him to leave me and try to take my kids and have me admitted or I would’ve done it by now. He’s called me weak when it comes to mental health even tho he’s been depressed before but he handles it way differently. I’ve almost taken my life over the years but have been too chicken to do it. Now I think of my children and who would be there for them but sometimes those thoughts aren’t enough. After I had my second child, I was going to do it. I had bad PPD and had to get on an antidepressant but that only worked for a while. I’d go to the doctor but we don’t have any money for it. I have insurance and my copay is only $50 but we don’t even have that. I’m so sick of life most of the time. I sound stupid. I feel stupid. I feel fat and I feel ugly. My first child starts school this fall and I’m hoping that will help him get socialized and help with his ADHD or ADD whatever is going on. Sorry for the long post. I have no one to talk to.

I don’t think my husband values our marriage as much as he’d like to think. I never get time to myself and he sits outside by himself every night and smokes his cigarettes and plays on his phone or lately the last 2 months he had to do stuff for work (can confirm). He’s always done this. I’m left inside with the kids and he gets to sit outside. I’ve been bringing this up to him but he doesn’t seem to care because he keeps doing it. At the end of the day I always want to spend time with him on the weekends so I guess it’s partly my fault I don’t get alone time but I’ve been telling him I need it and it never happens. We’ve been together nearly 9 years and we have 2 kids. I have my kids 25/8 I hardly ask him to watch them without me. The only time he does is if I go grocery shopping and that’s because he hates going grocery shopping and fusses the entire time. He’s even told me to take my 1 year old and he’ll watch our 4 year old (to get groceries). I refuse. It makes me feel like he doesn’t want to be around us. He says he’s stressed but so am I. I’ve gotten such bad headaches from stress that I thought I might have a stroke. Sometimes it seems like he’s only married to me for free childcare and someone to keep up with the house. I don’t know what I’m going to do because I love him and don’t want a divorce but this is killing me.

Hi everyone, I’m having a hard time coming to terms with not having a third child. I want a third so bad but me and my husband have been talking about it and he said that the more he thinks about it, that two might be enough. I do agree my two boys are enough but I can’t help but feel extremely sad at the fact that I might not have another baby. I do get really stressed out most days because my oldest son is very difficult at times. It’s not his fault but I feel like that might be one reason why my husband has second guessed. I don’t want to be selfish by wanting another baby. I just feel so awful right now.

Hey moms!! On your birthday, do you like doing the choosing (where to eat, presents, etc) or do y’all like being surprised and having your spouse and or kids choose? I personally don’t like choosing lol I’m tired of choosing things every day if that makes any sense 😂

The fact that Kristen was 13 filming this movie and the Eric lively was 22 bothers me. Why was he allowed to kiss her since she was very much a minor at the time… also why would he say yes to that scene?!? Gives me the ick