AITA for refusing to clean the kitchen after an 11-hour work shift, even though my Nigerian mom is furious?
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Today, I worked an 11-hour shift from 8 AM to 7 PM. By the time I got home, my body was completely exhausted, my legs were shaking, and I could barely stand. Before I even left for work this morning, I had already cleaned the entire kitchen.
Tonight, my mom cooked and left a massive mess. She told me to clean it up. I told her no, explaining that I was completely running on fumes and physically exhausted. For context, I am the one who cleans the kitchen about 98% of the time.
Because I couldn't do it, and my little sister is currently dealing with awful period cramps and couldn't help either, I suggested that she tell my brothers to do it instead. They are perfectly capable and had done nothing all day.
My mom absolutely flipped out at the suggestion. She got angry and asked me, "Do you want to turn them into slaves?" Meanwhile, I am literally the one doing almost all the domestic labor in this house while they get a free pass because they are boys.
I’ve even tried suggesting the "clean-as-you-go" method to her in the past to make things easier for everyone, but she took it as an insult to her cooking and completely rejected it.
Now she’s furious with me and the atmosphere is incredibly tense. I felt like I was just standing up for my physical well-being after a brutal workday, but in a traditional African home, saying "no" to your parents is treated like the ultimate sin.
AITA for holding my boundary, or should I have just sucked it up and cleaned?