My husband still works with his “former”Limerent Object. Do I need to worry that it will make a comeback?
I sensed his feelings were more for her from the first mention of her name. After a year and over 60 lunches alone with her, he finally told me he developed feelings for her and they were intense. He confessed his feelings to her 3 times before he told me the truth. In fact, that’s how we stumbled across the word limerence, because he said he felt possessed by the devil and couldn’t stop thinking of her morning, noon and night. Now it’s been 1 1/2 years with healthy boundaries in place still working with her in a small office. She is the “princess locked in the tower” archetype, where she is always the victim of her circumstances who
needs saving. She is going through another health crisis at the moment and was vulnerable about it with my husband in his office alone. Do I need to worry that limerence will make a comeback for him? I am still not completely over the first emotional betrayal. Getting hit by it again may floor me.