u/Adventurous-Wash3201

Baby has been head down for a while… today I got to my 36 weeks appointment to discuss my birth plan, but first the just feels the baby and does a quick scan and guess what?? She tuned breech!!

So now my baby is head up, cosy and comfy, and I have an ECV planned for 10 days from now.

I didn’t even consider a c section since I am low risk, and everything has been perfect till now, obviously I know you can’t really know till the end but I had this confidence that everything would be fine. Obviously everything is fine, I am just not happy about this.

The midwife told me we can also still do a vaginal birth because they often do them with breech babies so if it’s still my wish it will be possible. I am not sure how to feel about it till I talk to a doctor about pro and cons. Also I read that 50% of births of breech babies end up in c-sections anyways!!

Any positive experiences with ECV and planned c-sections for breech babies?

So, you can see my post history, after many struggles with my in laws we reached a common agreement that they would book tickets for a month after my due date, because since I am a FTM, I will likely deliver late and I wanted to not feel pressure to have them over right after birth. I told them that if I was going to have the baby around my due date and I would feel ok then I would be super happy for them to come earlier, and that if I was actually feeling ok they could just come straight after the birth, but if they were gonna book tickets in advance; I wanted the to have tickets for 1 month after due date since were I leave the induce you at 41+5 and not earlier.

After many arguments and them being upset with my request they finally told us that the understand and that they would buy the tickets for 25 days after my due date, and I promised them I would let them come earlier if the baby came on time or if I was feeling good already.

Today they took me on a side and they told me “sorry, we know this is upsetting for you, but we decided anyways to come 2 weeks after your due date and we booked tickets”.

I am so angry, my parents wouldn’t dream to behave this way, and they are far poorer and still working and not retired. My husband is telling me that I need to forget about it and move on because he will deal with it. As if his parents respect my or his boundaries…

Hi, my midwife is lovely but I really can’t understand what I am supposed to put in the birth plan. I asked so many times and the answers left me super confused. Last time she told me: here it is standard to do all the “right things”, you get skin to skin asap, we cut the cord very long after the baby is born to make sure the blood is all back within her ecc… so you don’t need to include these things, just write things like “I am afraid of blood” or “I don’t like needles”.

This leaves me confused because what am I supposed to write? For sure about not liking blood because it’s true, and probably something along the line that I am scared of certain medical procedures, but for the rest can someone of you help me out by telling me what they included in their birth plan?