u/AdventurousLog4691

Some feminists are very misogynistic themselves.

Most so called, “feminist” do not even look into the history of all the accomplishment that women made to better the lives of others. The surging debate about whether women who wear makeup are conditioned into wearing makeup or do it only because the patriarchy made them is genuinely hypocritical and shows you the overall mindset of feminists now.

The meaning of feminism has been translated many times

• For more equality, vengeance and for men to repay.

• For just equal standing and rights

• Watered-downed by feminist themselves because of men who’re threatened.

Talking about this in reddit isn’t a good idea! Especially since I’ve noticed that a lot of people here enjoy to pretend they’re wise and morally superior but they’re just copycats who’re a brick at listening so I expect a lot of topic drifting but my reasoning for this post is that—

A woman saying she wears makeup for herself is genuinely for herself. It does not mean she is ‘conditioned’ by the patriarchy.. Makeup is a form of art an expression and outlook to the soul. Makeup is a hobby and something that brings joy.

A woman who says she does do it for other people isn’t a bird or the only one telling the truth. Her acknowledgement of it shows that she’s confident rather than “less” because she does in - fact dress-up for others. The reason why I explain this so vaguely is because quite frankly there’s many reasons for why a woman would do it for others and shouldn’t be limited to just one POV

A woman who does do it because she recognizes the difference of privilege and attention she receives isn’t someone you should shame and tell her to deconstruct the idea of especially if that’s their safety. This shouldn’t be an invitation to tell them that they should stop using it as a safety and embrace harm because I believe that’s just putting little effort into actually trying to deconstruct the idea that a man should treat a woman less because she’s not painted.

The feminist that I noticed are misogynistic themselves will now be referred as terfs (Ik what a terf is) but I believe that being a feminist is already viewed as very threatening then it already is so I’ll use terf because it’s a group I do not agree with.

Clearly, terfs do not understand the history of women but rather are blinded by wrath and rage which I find it reasonable but the outcome and actions that stems from it is not and just completely disregard the r-pe movement that feminists made.

“What were you wearing?” is the equivalent as asking, “Why are you wearing make-up?”

Because the over all point here is that to enjoy yourself in a aesthetic in which you’ve found your identity is — is supposedly not for you… yet rather because the patriarchy conditioned you…? Wait let’s go back because as far as I know

Make-up is rebellious: Gyaru a form of make-up that rebels against the rigid beauty standards of japan

Make- up is political: Goths that fight against a corrupted government system & what not

Make- up scandalous: In ancient egypt, Make up was used a symbol of status between both men and woman and has always existed dated in the bible even. However, to wear make-up was for s$x workers and therefore shamed upon.

Make- up is self identity and it does not affect you, a ‘feminist’ or the overall movement of feminism. In-fact wearing make-up is the most rebellious and feminist form of action you could take. Because to wear make up meant you’re weak, a pig underneath, a clown, that you only care for your ‘appearance’ and that it’s the most girly thing you could ever possibly do.

Growing up, I was oppressed without ever knowing and I wasn’t alone when I said, “Unlike other girls! I don’t wear make up🙄” I wanted to be taken seriously. To be a tomboy was to be cool and therefore the best way to get attention appropriately even at the cost of rejecting myself … even when it came to me rejecting the femininity of other young girls like me. Wearing make-up was for bimbo girls and to be bare face was to be taken seriously but wait…? Haven’t we heard of this before ladies??

MEN who bash on women who wear makeup. Men who de-values a woman who wears makeup, men who prefers a woman without makeup because she isn’t “lying”.

Yes! This surge of terfs saying that makeup is something that a woman is doing for the male validation is red pilled in itself as it’s amplifying the idea that we want it and that we’re lying when we say it’s for ourselves and for our enjoyment.

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u/AdventurousLog4691 — 2 days ago
▲ 2 r/relationshipproblems+1 crossposts

CONTEXT

My BF, 19M has never had any female relationships platonically and romantically after 8th grade(other than his family) to add on to that he lost all of his friends and remained absolutely isolated from the world— No friends, no social media all through-out high school. He was so depressed because even his own family did not talk to him.

I (F17) kept many deep friendships and I had 2 relationships between 7th grade and 9th grade. My 1st boyfriend was of a week and we remained very messy, I was so weak I spread rumors of myself as the bad guy rather than him. I was forced into a 2nd relationship with a guy I only met half a day and dated him for 3 months until I decided it just wouldn’t work as stereotypically he’s the extroverted athlete (10th grade) and I was the cringey loud 9th grader. Neither of my friends has had relationships before and I don’t have a strong relationship with my mom other than surface level small talks.

PROBLEM

He has many issues as I do, but in the beginning I was so patient and I would always be emotionally intelligent and just sit there, asking questions such as: “Did you do this act (that meant breaking up) to see if I would care? Because I truly do and I love you but it’s not mature of us to do that.”

I need to be loved loudly, I wish that he would just be vulnerable and stop repressing everything yet when he’s emotional like I wanted, he’s blinded by nothing but his “woman are hoe’s way” which I’ve been trying to get his mindset out of because it works both ways but the only way that matters is that YOU know who I actually am.

My problem is that now that he’s actually ‘changing’… he’s changing a year late in the relationship and I really was just so ready to end everything and leave but that was the only time he even showed he cared about my absence but look, right before I was trying to break up with him he genuinely just cut me off and everything: “I do NOT like you anymore” after I told him I was having commitment issues because at the beginning of our relationship I was going to just be celibate/single forever and I told him that so much. That conversation was set right after months and MONTHS basically our entire relationship of on and off arguing and then some very intimate moments. I wasn’t cheating or anything I was just honestly speaking that I wanted a beautiful marriage life together but being a single lady (which is so empowering to me and was my goal) sounded so much easier and beneficial.

After he broke up with me just like that, I begged. Oh I really texted the man paragraphs upon paragraphs like Hamilton no exaggeration. I called 80 times throughout the SCHOOL day, I even called and texted on TextNow ++ I really just wanted to make it work so bad. We got back together after that and I was happy— briefly. Because my friend said to me during that time (since i thought it was officially over I told my friend what had happened 3 days after the incident), “[OP], do you even remember who you were like before him?” After that I realized maybe it is better to leave because I use to be an inspiration and a an idol of empowerment with just yourself.

I really want things to work out with this handsome boy, we were happy after our anniversary (Which was after he broke up with me, then I tried breaking up a bit after he tried breaking it off with me and before our anniversary that’s the timeline.) But being with him made me toxic.

I’m selfish and I’m intoxicated with nothing but greed, I want more of him and I’m forcing him to change entirely instead of leaving him exactly who he is because someone out there wants a guy as this… Not me. He says he wants to change so I tell him: Do Not Give me Space, I overthink and your silence will answer everything you don’t want it to answer. Have more regard towards my feelings when you act alone, he acts carelessly like choosing to give a choco treat to my friend instead of me (It was for his brother the treat and I asked for it before knowing that. He gave it to my friend because he rather please strangers than his own girlfriend.) Argue with me do not go silent, I wasn’t always like this but everytime I would tell him something that was upsetting me he would go silent and say, “Idk what to say.” monotone. His monotone voice began to infuriate me and say thee most nastiest, (but true never wrong still not necessary for me to say though) insults which makes him shut down more.

He asks for what he needs to change yet never does it at-least not in time in order for my feelings to have bene gone now. I want him so bad because I could list out his flaws and how cruel he’s made me but when I think of him there’s only intimate moments that are irreplaceable— You would have to live through these moments of our soul intertwining
because he’s incredibly unique for me only and it’s clear. I just wish we had more experience and met as adults.

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u/AdventurousLog4691 — 20 days ago

Okay to preface, We did it raw on my follicular (Highest chance to be pregnant) and we did it again … DURING MY MOST PEAK ovulation. —This was in a span of April 13-16 — And I literally got thee worst body dysphoria Ik you can’t get pregnant belly in the 1st week but when I tell you my body was really changing bad because of all the stress and I don’t use Plan B or any pills because I’m scared of the side-effects and how it’ll drastically do on me and I would have to wait till after April 30th for my period since it always comes a little late.

I personally didn’t have many symptoms, take that as you will 😫 But I was literally so stressed I wanted to just mellow in my fear but I literally couldnt let myself because I was even more afraid to affirm that in reality which genuinely hurted my head internally

that “I might get preggo from frickin pre-semen!!” And ya’ll presemen isn’t small amounts 😔 … So I listen to problem solvers from some pretty trustworthy subs since i DON’T play about unwanted affirms but I started getting so anxious and afraid of the day before my bleed, “april 30th” that I found this unwanted pregnancy subliminal read the comments and gave it a listen literally yesterday.

My period came the next day (The last period of my school day) Ya’ll this unwanted pregnancy dont play abt periods cs it wasnt js me in the comments🤭

I also just wanted to add this here since there isn’t even a post about “unwanted pregnancy” subliminals…

If you’re a dumb teen like me, check your period app beforehand, it’s not even 95% accurate but it’s better than nothing 😭

u/AdventurousLog4691 — 22 days ago