u/Affectionate-Mess531

ex husband (divorced 5 years) went off the deep end this past weekend. I commented on a Facebook reel about narcissists that I was in agreement with what the video said and someone sent it to him. I did not name him or share any identifying details in the comment. I have him and all his family blocked on social media. Either someone sent it to him or he’s stalking me from a fake profile.

So that angered him and set him off so much that he began sending our children disturbing texts telling them he hates me and “fuck your mom” and such and then he told my 8 year old he was just going to hang himself.

So I contacted his daughter and she called the people around him and they got to him (he actually did attempt). He spent 24 hours on psychiatric hold.

I’m now very concerned for my children’s safety. But I’m also unsure if I have enough to get emergency custody. I know that if I file and try to get it and am unsuccessful that he will be angry and retaliate so I don’t want to try without some assurance that I have a good case.

I’ve contacted a lawyer and waiting to hear back but I wanted opinions and others experiences as well.

I’ve been divorced for 5 years. My ex was emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive. And we’re still coparenting 3 kids.
Recently I saw a reel talking about emotional abuse and I made a comment agreeing with what the post said. I didn’t say anything very detailed or personal, just shared that my experience was similar to that described in the post.

Well someone (I don’t know who) saw that comment and sent it to him. I don’t even know how they saw it because it was just some random reel online. Now he’s mad, texting my kids awful things to the point I blocked him on their phones, and threatening suicide.
I let his older daughter know he needs help right now and I’m ignoring the awful things he’s texting me.

Now his daughter is mad at me for “talking shit” because we’ve been divorced for so long.

But is it really wrong for me to talk about my own experience online? It’s truly never from a place of talking badly about him or trying to make him feel bad, I never expect him to see it or anyone else as I have his whole family and any friends that I know of blocked. It is always from a place of sharing my own personal experience.

So am I the asshole?