u/AffectionateGuest646

a little over a month ago, i finally left a 2 year long abusive relationship. originally, i tried to stay on good terms with him because i didn’t want to rock the boat or cause problems in our shared social circle, but he ended up snapping at me over text when i told him i couldn’t sleep over at his house (for obvious reasons), and i blocked his number. he ended up reaching out to my best friend for some reason the day after that to talk about me. i unblocked him only to arrange getting my things back which of course he pushed off for as long as possible. he decided to spam my phone the night before i got my things back apologizing for calling me names and everything else he’s done etc etc. i told him to stop texting me and ignored him, to which he requested to follow my instagram on his side account that i forgot to block. after i got my things back i blocked him on messaging again, and i haven’t heard from him. this was sunday.

even though he’s blocked on everything, i have a feeling in my gut and in my chest that he’s not going to let me go or leave me alone fully. especially with the unhinged messages he had sent me and my friends. he caught wind that im seeing someone new as well, which makes me extra worried that he’s going to find a way to lash out. in the past when ive tried to leave he’s done similar things, but im worried he will lose his mind because im really gone this time. he’s very mentally unstable and unhinged, and a very angry man. he keeps trying to talk to my friends.

i was thinking of getting a temporary protection order so i can have legal backing if he tries to contact me or go to the places i go, but my friends and family are telling me to wait and see if he does anything else. i just can’t shake the feeling that he’s going to do something else, and that he’s not going to leave me alone. i feel like im just being dramatic though since my friends and family are telling me to wait on filing for the protection order. i want to get the order, but i don’t know if im just being dramatic.

by questioning the demonization of BPD, i don’t want it to come across as me dismissing anyone’s experience if they were in a toxic or abusive situation with someone diagnosed with BPD to be clear. but i don’t understand the demonization of those with this illness. i have had friends with BPD who are kind, sweet, and aware individuals. i’ve recently started dating a girl with BPD, and she’s incredibly emotionally intelligent, communicates straightforwardly, and expresses her needs to me with no BS/drama.

i’m looking up ways to support her and gain insight from those who are in romantic relationships with individuals who have BPD, and a lot of the comments just say “run”, as if everyone with BPD acts the same. so, why the demonization??

hi everybody! i’m really interested in making cursing powder to use on individuals and in spells, i’m wondering if anyone would have a good recipe for one that’s worked for them or advice on what to grind up to put into a curse powder? thank you!