u/After_Shopping3532

Okay for context, my brother is getting married in Spain in 2 weeks. My wife and I also just flew to Seattle last weekend for their courthouse wedding and reception. I have been torn about wanting to go recently as there has been a strain on my relationship with my brother and his wife is not very popular with most family members. But after the weekend in Seattle is am less sure about spending thousands of dollars to attend this wedding. The bride was very upset for most of the courthouse wedding weekend as she did not count it as their actual wedding and was not in the mood to celebrate despite having family travel in for it and having two seperate parties. I understand their wedding in Spain is the real deal for them I just was expecting a little bit of excitement over finally being married after a 2 1/2 year engagement.

Another aspect that is influencing my decision is the fact that my wife and I moved away from my whole family over a year ago and my brother has made no attempt or mention to visiting. We however have returned to Seattle to visit 3 times since moving, not including this last trip for the courthouse wedding. I am always the one to call and catch up as well. So part of me thinks that I am continuously going above and beyond for my brother when it is not being reciprocated, and that if it wasn't for my efforts, we would have little to no relationship.

I have not booked the hotels for my trip yet as my wife is in her third trimester and we were waiting to make sure everything stayed healthy and low risk with her pregnancy before I booked anything non-refundable. She will obviously be staying home while I travel to Spain.

I am needing to book my hotels ASAP and I can't help but feel torn. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my brother but it seems like a lot of money and PTO being spent for people who don't seem that appreciative. Between my pregnant wife and the status of my job I feel I have valid excuses if I need them.

I am looking for genuine input as I am so far into this I feel I can't see up. It's been a long buildup for this wedding and I don't want to make the wrong choice here.

I am 29w with my first and have been very blessed with a pretty easy pregnancy so far. No morning sickness, no complications, no real complaints. But in the last few days I just feel like I am uncomfortable all the time. I can’t get comfy on the couch, I can’t sit for too long, can’t stand for too long. I’m just not feeling myself anymore and am quickly going from enjoying this pregnancy/process to counting down until it is over.

I am curious if anyone else hit this point in their pregnancy and if there are any remedies, even if just temporary.

I am 29 weeks and was just diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I know it’s normally pretty easy to monitor and control but I’ve read that it can come with some significant risks, including higher risk for preeclampsia and preterm birth. This is my first pregnancy so everything about this is new to me. I was also just diagnosed so I am still waiting for my follow up appointment on what this all means for me.

Anyways, my husband is supposed to be going to Italy in 2 weeks for 10 days to attend his brother’s wedding. Would you be okay with your husband traveling this distance? I will be just shy of 33 weeks when he returns so it’s not like I’m super close to my due date. Just looking for some options on what you would be comfortable with to ease my own mind.