u/AfternoonComplex7898

He wasn’t my teacher, just a teacher, we never crossed physical paths, he lived in Canada, and I live in the United States. He found me on Omegle, we exchanged contact information, I was living in an abusive household and that made me desperate and dumb enough to fall for everything, I really thought we were in love. Whenever my mom was out of the house at the bars (which was quite frequently) we’d FaceTime and he’d ask me to do sexual things for him. He told me he wanted me to go to school in Canada when I turned 18 so we could be close to each other, he even sent me links to scholarship opportunities, and different schools near him, and then he told me he didn’t want that at all when I was finally old enough to start applying for colleges. I didn’t realize how wrong this was until many years later and that realization has only gotten worse since then. I feel responsible for not reporting him to somebody given he was/is a teacher, but when I was young and dumb I assumed the fact that he taught 6th graders meant it didn’t really matter because I was ‘almost an adult.’ When he was sexually involved with me, and that wasn’t anything like being attracted to middle schoolers. Now that I’m 28 I feel differently. I now have to sit with the fact that he could still be abusing girls, even girls that are much younger than I was and are in his classes, and I didn’t stop it when I had the power to. That will haunt me for the rest of my life.

He wasn’t my teacher, we never crossed physical paths, he lived in Canada, and I live in the United States. He found me on Omegle, we exchanged contact information, I was living in an abusive household and that made me desperate and dumb enough to fall for everything, I really thought we were in love. Whenever my mom was out of the house at the bars (which was quite frequently) we’d FaceTime and he’d ask me to do sexual things for him. He told me he wanted me to go to school in Ontario when I turned 18 so we could be close to each other, and then told me he didn’t want that at all when I was finally old enough to start applying for colleges. I didn’t realize how wrong this was until many years later and it has only gotten worse since then. I feel responsible for not reporting him to somebody given he was a teacher, but when I was young and dumb I assumed the fact that he taught 6th graders meant it didn’t really matter because I was ‘almost an adult.’ When he was sexually involved with me, and that wasn’t anything like being attracted to middle schoolers. Now that I’m 28 I feel differently. I now have to sit with the fact that he could still be abusing girls, even girls that are much younger than I was and are in his classes, and I didn’t stop it when I had the power to. That will haunt me for the rest of my life.

My grandma is a Quaker in the U.S, and I myself have started getting interested in it, so I’m curious about the presence of Quakerism across the globe. I know outside of Kenya Quakers are kind of a dying breed so there won't be too many people that can contribute to this question, but I thought I’d ask regardless.