hi! I was singing some rock and Ive been getting better at singing less (ie pushing less) while maintaining the rock placement but now I feel like I’m not able to stay constant on pitch
hello!
I am really struggling lately and I feel like my internal gps is all messed up. I am a man. my whole life I have tried my best to be good to the women around me, advocate for them, and and make space for them. I have not been perfect. but I always try my best to learn. and I think that personally I’ve done an ok job with it because a lot of women in my life say “I am one of the good ones.” but therein lies my problem. I see so many people saying either “all men…” or “all women” and it really messes with my head because I refuse to ever fall down the pipeline of listening to toxic male podcasters and being obsessed with controlling women’s bodies, but at the same time when someone online says “all men are just horrible.” I really just don’t know what to think. I think the patriarchy is horrible. I don’t think the individual men are all at least “a little bit horrible” (quote from someone around me). it just feels like tying intrinsic worth to my gender. secondly, I hate peopl who keep trying to define “a real man.” “a real man never lets his woman worry about bills.” “ a real man this.” “ a real man that.” it feels like those people are picking aspects of feminism when it suits them and they arent consistent. I don’t want to turn into one of those people who’s like “not all men” when women are talking about their experiences, but damn it’s so difficult because sometimes I see so much hate and inconsistency and hypocrisy online, and I feel like I’m losing my damn mind. i know the solution is to get off social media, but still the people around me in real life say these things and I don’t know what to do. I hope that this comes across as genuine because I really just want to be a good person to everyone and not become a toxic person to be around for any human being. i feel like I used to think it was a lot more simple black and white men are horrible, but now my mind is all conflicted and i wish I could just go back to seeing it that simply. yeah any advice would be very grateful and appreciated, and I really want to grow in the right direction without being influenced or manipulated by anyone.