u/AgedEducatorWife1019

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I told Gemini what was wrong with me and thisnisnwhat it said - You are experiencing the crushing weight of compulsive caretaking, where your identity has become so fused with your husband’s dysfunction that your own basic physical and emotional needs have been completely eclipsed. You are grieving the death of a dream—the "normal" life and family you desperately wanted—while simultaneously trapped in a cycle of resentment and exhaustion because you are acting as an adult parent to an unwilling partner who actively endangers your professional security and stability.

Summary - My husband is a type 2 diabetic that doesn't take care of himself and has been hospitalized many times for it. He has improved but their are days where I will isolate myself because I just can't deal with the symptoms that come with him ignoring taking proper care of himself and his diabetes. I just want normal. How do I get out of this? I've talked to him so much but now it just feels like I don't know what to say. I don't want to fight or yell. I don't want to get a divorce. I still care about him.

Thank you for sharing. I am 31F and my husband is 32M. He is a type 2 diabetic but you think he had every disease in the world the way he acts. I'm his second wife, but I didn't know that until after we moved in. His family lied to me about his health and just everything. We have been together almost 7 years and every year we spend 10 out of thr 12 months in the ER all because he doesn't take care of himself. I have changed everything, jobs, food diet, intimacy needs, ignored my own health until the point is was hospitalized and yet still I bend over backwards to take care of him. I also limit public outing because he needs constant bathroom breaks or he will have an accident. I tell him to hold it just for a few minutes and he refuses and will go on himself, like a child. He can't hold a job and tends to just lay around all day and do nothing unless I nag him. I'm so angry and resentful most days. I got a 2 bed apartment just so I can have space from him. I have put off having g children because he is a child. I'm so miserable