u/Aggravating-Mode3012

I have just finished my PhD. and have been offered a place on a healthcare graduate scheme. I also applied for postdoc funding, which was rejected.

If I take the job I will have to move to a very expensive city and go from living on my own to a house share. I am very attached to my current city and my flat and have hated past houseshares.

I applied for the job 4 years ago and really wanted it back then, but I'm not so sure now. I really wanted the postdoc (which might eventually get accepted next March but there's no guarantee) and applied for this job at the last minute, just in case. I was secretly hoping I didn't get it. Its not that I think I would hate the job, I'm just not ready to give up research and I'm worried I'm not outgoing enough for the role.

It is a very competitive graduate scheme and would lead to a stable, well-paid job. I would also probably be able to move back to my current city after 3 years on the job. Postdocs are not stable at all as they are just 3 year contracts, so i wasn't planning on staying in research forever. I'm considering at least trying the new job, but then I would have to give up my flat, move away from my friends, etc. What should I do?

Tldr: do I take this job if I'm not sure I want to do it?

I have just finished my PhD. and have been offered a place on a healthcare graduate scheme. I also applied for postdoc funding, which was rejected.

If I take the job I will have to move to a very expensive city and go from living on my own to a house share. I am very attached to my current city and my flat and have hated past houseshares.

I applied for the job 4 years ago and really wanted it back then, but I'm not so sure now. I really wanted the postdoc (which might eventually get accepted next March but there's no guarantee) and applied for this job at the last minute, just in case. I was secretly hoping I didn't get it. Its not that I think I would hate the job, I'm just not ready to give up research and I'm worried I'm not outgoing enough for the role.

It is a very competitive graduate scheme and would lead to a stable, well-paid job. I would also probably be able to move back to my current city after 3 years on the job. Postdocs are not stable at all as they are just 3 year contracts, so i wasn't planning on staying in research forever. I'm considering at least trying the new job, but then I would have to give up my flat, move away from my friends, etc. What should I do?

Tldr: do I take this job if I'm not sure I want to do it?

I have just finished my PhD. and have been offered a place on a healthcare graduate scheme. I also applied for postdoc funding, which was rejected.

If I take the job I will have to move to a very expensive city and go from living on my own to a house share. I am very attached to my current city and my flat and have hated past houseshares.

I applied for the job 4 years ago and really wanted it back then, but I'm not so sure now. I really wanted the postdoc (which might eventually get accepted next March but there's no guarantee) and applied for this job at the last minute, just in case. I was secretly hoping I didn't get it. Its not that I think I would hate the job, I'm just not ready to give up research and I'm worried I'm not outgoing enough for the role.

It is a very competitive graduate scheme and would lead to a stable, well-paid job. I would also probably be able to move back to my current city after 3 years on the job. Postdocs are not stable at all as they are just 3 year contracts, so i wasn't planning on staying in research forever. I'm considering at least trying the new job, but then I would have to give up my flat, move away from my friends, etc. What should I do?

Tldr: do I take this job if I'm not sure I want to do it?

I have just finished my PhD. and have been offered a place on a healthcare graduate scheme. I also applied for postdoc funding, which was rejected.

If I take the job I will have to move to a very expensive city and go from living on my own to a house share. I am very attached to my current city and my flat and have hated past houseshares.

I applied for the job 4 years ago and really wanted it back then, but I'm not so sure now. I really wanted the postdoc (which might eventually get accepted next March but there's no guarantee) and applied for this job at the last minute, just in case. I was secretly hoping I didn't get it. Its not that I think I would hate the job, I'm just not ready to give up research and I'm worried I'm not outgoing enough for the role.

It is a very competitive graduate scheme and would lead to a stable, well-paid job. I would also probably be able to move back to my current city after 3 years on the job. Postdocs are not stable at all as they are just 3 year contracts, so i wasn't planning on staying in research forever. I'm considering at least trying the new job, but then I would have to give up my flat, move away from my friends, etc. What should I do?

Tldr: do I take this job if I'm not sure I want to do it?

I currently live alone after years of terrible house shares. I have social anxiety and used to go on long bus rides every evening and travel 4hrs to my parents' house every weekend to get away from my last houseshare. I barely ate / cooked cos of guests in the kitchen and was having panic attacks even in my room with the door closed. Now that I live alone, I am finally calm, and my life has improved 1000%.

I lost my job and have to move to a new, very expensive city where I probably won't be able to afford to live alone. The new job is a great opportunity for me, and after 3 years I will be fully trained and can move elsewhere. It is very people facing though, so I think the new job combined with a house share will be too much. Everyone is telling me to just put up with it cos living alone would be over 50% of my paycheck.

What should I do? If I don't take the new job I will have no income. In my field, it could take over a year to get a new job. I am already dreading moving and am super stressed at the thought of moving in with strangers. I can honestly see myself giving the job up and moving back in with my parents.

Tldr: should I take a new job if it means I will have to move back into a house share?

I currently live alone after years of terrible house shares. I have social anxiety and used to go on long bus rides every evening and travel 4hrs to my parents' house every weekend to get away from my last houseshare. I barely ate / cooked cos of guests in the kitchen and was having panic attacks even in my room with the door closed. Now that I live alone, I am finally calm, and my life has improved 1000%.

I lost my job and have to move to a new, very expensive city where I probably won't be able to afford to live alone. The new job is a great opportunity for me, and after 3 years I will be fully trained and can move elsewhere. It is very people facing though, so I think the new job combined with a house share will be too much. Everyone is telling me to just put up with it cos living alone would be over 50% of my paycheck.

What should I do? If I don't take the new job I will have no income. In my field, it could take over a year to get a new job. I am already dreading moving and am super stressed at the thought of moving in with strangers. I can honestly see myself giving the job up and moving back in with my parents.

I am 25 and was on the lowest dose of sertraline from age 18-21. I never upped the dose because I was getting pretty bad brain zaps and insomnia. I am currently taking propranolol for anxiety.

Recently, my mood has been lower than ever before, and things are likely to get worse over the next 6 months (I lost my job and other personal circumstances). I am really struggling to cope.

I want to go back on SSRIs, but I am worried about PSSD. I have never had an orgasm which I blame on sertraline (but it could be caused by something else). The doctor says there is nothing physically wrong with me, but she also said I would be very, very unlucky to get PSSD, and my anorgasmia is probably caused by not being relaxed enough.

What do you think? Should I chance it and go back on SSRIs?