u/Aggravating_Box_2407

I went to college, I’ve taken post bacc classes & certs. I put myself in more debt at a trade school lol. Yet still, I am still right at minimum wage. It used to not really matter that much. I used to date a ton in my early mid 20s, slowed down a bit in my later 20s. Now it’s almost non existent. I look the same, hairline is still great lol, I’m in better shape than ever, yet despite all this things have really taken a downturn. Is there any other reason I’m struggling now besides my low wage & menial job?

I graduated from college 7 years ago. I’ve taken certifications after, along with 2 separate trade programs. It still hasn’t gotten me a well paying job. I’ve been making around 35k in NYC & tbh I’m burnt out. I never have money for anything, I’m constantly having to borrow money. Also, dating has gotten much harder this last year or so since I’ve gotten in my 30s (dead broke guy in his 30s here is not a good look lol). Where are some places where I could thrive, live comfortably & have a lively social & dating life making around minimum wage?

I’m really lost & feel like a failure. I’ve tried numerous jobs in different industries. Have flamed out of each one. I’ve also failed out of multiple trade schools. Tbh im not very smart, I got through college due to a ton of extra support because of disabilities & mental illness. I seldom hear back from anything above menial minimum wage work anymore. I have been working as a busser at a restaurant the last 16 or so months. I like it & I’m pretty good at it but the pay is pretty low. I’ve been trying to get into being a server or bartender but haven’t gotten any opportunities yet. Therapy is helping but I’m super depressed at where my life is. Any advice would be great