u/Aggressive-Film5065

Today I ended my friendship with someone who I thought was my platonic soulmate. I've made previous posts asking for advice with ghosting and decided today I just cant let this slide. They immediately blocked me on social media after not speaking to me for weeks and leaving me on delivered. I had to send it via email, I never got their new number and didn't want to use social media to do it.

I feel like I just ripped part of my soul out. Writing that email was gutwrenching. But it had to be done. Why are we all being ghosted by our friends? Why cant we just communicate? The emotional immaturity is honestly embarrassing. I hope everyone doing the ghosting can grow up and realize its not better than saying "this isn't working out" or whatever the fuck. Use your words people, it will literally cost you people who genuinely love you and want the best for you.

My best friend tends to ghost when she's going thru something instead of communicating. We had made plans for my birthday and she got sick and that turned into her not reaching out to me for 6 weeks. I still haven't heard anything. This is probably the 3rd time she's done this, and I've basically chased after her every time.

I reached out again at the 3 week mark and at 5 weeks she opened it and didn't respond. All I said was I hope youre okay I'll be here when you get back.

Is this the end of my friendship? Should this be the end? I'm huge on communication which she knows and that makes it even worse. I'm not sure what I should do. This friend has become my platonic soulmate and we wanted to be friends literally until the end.

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Hi reddit. I dont ever take to the internet with this stuff but im at a loss. My best friend and I have been friends for 2 years. We met thru an old job, and luckily stayed in contact after I quit.

For context, we're both in our late 20s and both have mental health issues/diagnosed autism. We're both women and both agreed that we had a great friendship and were very thankful for the job that sucked but brought us together. She was basically family to me. We've bonded over past relationships and basically having had the same childhood and how we're both in healthy relationships now. We share similar interests and appreciate each others differences.

I love this girl, but there's been a few hiccups. She is the avoidant type and I am very confrontational and strong minded. I've grown up so much over the last few years and have matured so much so this type of behavior irks the shit out of me and is very immature imo.

There's been a few times where when she's going thru something she's ghosted. I do not believe im the type thats entitled to anyone's time and we all process things differently. I also dont try to "fix" people. I have always been very honest with her and given her big sister advice if you will since we're not on the same page in life.

I've always tried to have an understanding and see her side and have encouraged her many times that ghosting causes tension and concern for their wellbeing. I do not condone ghosting and believe that saying "i need time/space" is always better (but very hard to do im aware.)

We were making plans to hangout for my birthday last month and she ended up sick and had to cancel. I said no problem do you want to try for next weekend and was told yes. That following week I never heard from her or saw that she had opened my messages. I could see that she had been active and also reposting on tiktok so I tried to brush it off. There was also a storm the following weekend we had planned for so I assumed plans were off anyway.

Fast forward to 3 weeks later, I still hear nothing. I decide to put my pride to the side and reach out and say what's going on do you need space? I said I hope you dont feel like I abandoned you for not reaching out sooner but ill be here when you get back.

The messages were opened with no response. It's been maybe 7 weeks now and still nothing. I've fought with the idea of reaching out again and telling her that this hurts, she ghosted me for my birthday. But at the end of the day it would probably go unopened.

I dont know where I stand with her, I've still referred to her as my best friend when I bring her up in conversation but it feels wrong to call her that now. I've tried really hard to reflect and see if maybe I did something. Ill never force myself on someone.

There's been instances where she's told me about people who have hurt her and she doesn't want to talk to them anymore, but she still is friends with them on social media and responds to their comments as if they were friends still (maybe she never told me they reconciled.) Were still friends on all social media still so its hard to rule out if she's just done with me. We've never had arguments before either. This is the longest we've gone no contact.

I feel like I know to just write them off, I deserve better than being ghosted but I dont think I've fully grasped that this is possibly a goodbye. I find myself holding onto hope that things will go back to how they were but again there is a history here of ghosting. This is also the first girlfriend I've had in years that wasn't a bad influence and didn't encourage me to be the worst version of myself.

If youve read this entire thing, thank you for listening to me. A, I needed to vent but B, I really dont have anyone to ask about this.

Hi reddit. I dont ever take to the internet with this stuff but im at a loss. My best friend and I have been friends for 2 years. We met thru an old job, and luckily stayed in contact after I quit.

For context, we're both in our late 20s and both have mental health issues/diagnosed autism. We're both women and both agreed that we had a great friendship and were very thankful for the job that sucked but brought us together. She was basically family to me. We've bonded over past relationships and basically having had the same childhood and how we're both in healthy relationships now. We share similar interests and appreciate each others differences.

I love this girl, but there's been a few hiccups. She is the avoidant type and I am very confrontational and strong minded. I've grown up so much over the last few years and have matured so much so this type of behavior irks the shit out of me and is very immature imo.

There's been a few times where when she's going thru something she's ghosted. I do not believe im the type thats entitled to anyone's time and we all process things differently. I also dont try to "fix" people. I have always been very honest with her and given her big sister advice if you will since we're not on the same page in life.

I've always tried to have an understanding and see her side and have encouraged her many times that ghosting causes tension and concern for their wellbeing. I do not condone ghosting and believe that saying "i need time/space" is always better (but very hard to do im aware.)

We were making plans to hangout for my birthday last month and she ended up sick and had to cancel. I said no problem do you want to try for next weekend and was told yes. That following week I never heard from her or saw that she had opened my messages. I could see that she had been active and also reposting on tiktok so I tried to brush it off. There was also a storm the following weekend we had planned for so I assumed plans were off anyway.

Fast forward to 3 weeks later, I still hear nothing. I decide to put my pride to the side and reach out and say what's going on do you need space? I said I hope you dont feel like I abandoned you for not reaching out sooner but ill be here when you get back.

The messages were opened with no response. It's been maybe 7 weeks now and still nothing. I've fought with the idea of reaching out again and telling her that this hurts, she ghosted me for my birthday. But at the end of the day it would probably go unopened.

I dont know where I stand with her, I've still referred to her as my best friend when I bring her up in conversation but it feels wrong to call her that now. I've tried really hard to reflect and see if maybe I did something. Ill never force myself on someone.

There's been instances where she's told me about people who have hurt her and she doesn't want to talk to them anymore, but she still is friends with them on social media and responds to their comments as if they were friends still (maybe she never told me they reconciled.) Were still friends on all social media still so its hard to rule out if she's just done with me. We've never had arguments before either. This is the longest we've gone no contact.

I feel like I know to just write them off, I deserve better than being ghosted but I dont think I've fully grasped that this is possibly a goodbye. I find myself holding onto hope that things will go back to how they were but again there is a history here of ghosting. This is also the first girlfriend I've had in years that wasn't a bad influence and didn't encourage me to be the worst version of myself.

If youve read this entire thing, thank you for listening to me. A, I needed to vent but B, I really dont have anyone to ask about this.