u/Agitated_Invite2594

I am not very good at writing but I really need to share this somewhere.
Me and my husband were not happy for long time. We both knew this marriage is not working. We didn’t have intimacy for more than a year and even talked about divorce before. It was not sudden or shocking.
But what he did now is something I never expected.
Few weeks ago, after a small arugument that turned very intense he just up and left, stopped talking to me completely. No message, no call, nothing. Just silence. Like I don’t exist. But at the same time, he is talking to my family. Telling them things, acting like victim, and making me look bad.
I am here alone with our baby, managing everything by myself.
And now he is putting pressure through my family. He is saying if I don’t do things his way (things I am not comfortable with), then he will abandon me and my baby. No support, no help, nothing.
I am an immigrant here, my situation is already not stable. He knows this very well. He knows I am dependent right now and still he is using it against me.
I dont even know how to feel, i dont even have the luxury of feeling heartbroken as i am the sole caregiver for my baby and need to sort out everything logistically including mine and my baby's visa without him supporting at all.
This is what hurts the most. Not just that he left, but that he is still trying to control my life from distance. He has managed to turn my family against me too. Making sure i am left completely alone and abandoned by everyone? why? just to appease his mum who wants to do some stupid rituals on my baby including shaving his head which i am totally against! They are forcing religion on my baby without my consent.
I don’t understand how someone can do this to their own wife and child. One side he doesn’t even talk to me, other side he is deciding everything for me.
I feel very tired and stressed. Sometimes I feel angry, sometimes just numb.
I just want to ask, has anyone gone through something like this? How do you deal with this kind of situation and move forward?

I 28F have been married for a few years to 30M and for the past year, my husband and I have both agreed we’re unhappy and should probably divorce. It was mutual, not just me pushing it. We’ve even discussed things like a post-nup.
We haven’t had sex in over a year, and the relationship has basically been dead.
But here’s what I don’t understand, every time I try to actually move forward with separation or make it official, he flips. Anger, temper tantrums, suddenly acting like I’m the one destroying everything.
The relationship itself hasn’t been healthy either, there’s been verbal and physical abuse, and he has a very enmeshed, almost inappropriate emotional dynamic with his mother. She constantly interferes, and I’ve always felt like I come second.
Now he’s gone completely no contact with me for over a month, not even checking on our 1yr old son, but here’s the twist: he’s still in touch with my family. Calling them, talking to them, keeping himself in the loop… just not speaking to me at all. He has turned then against me. It's like he is ganging up with my own parents to control me.
So I’m being ignored by my own husband while he maintains relationships with everyone around me.
At this point, I feel like I’m being shut out, controlled, and somehow still made to look like the bad guy for trying to follow through on a decision we BOTH made.
AITA for just wanting to end this properly and move on?