u/Air_Refreshener_2244

Recently I’ve been going out and making more friends. I want anything BUT sounding cocky when I say this, but if I have to believe my friends/ex-boyfriends I’m relatively good looking? I’d personally only say 6,5/7 but who cares.

My issue is that in the past I’ve had a lot of people mistake my actions as romantic. I’m just trying to be nice and make conversation (during which I ask a lot of questions to my conversational partner). I’m really bad at catching hints, to the point that I even once went on a date with someone while not knowing that it was a date, just because the term “date” was not explicitly said.

A recent ex of mine warned me that guys would assume I’m flirting because of how I look (again I really don’t look that great, just average/fit) or that I would otherwise not catch hints and accidentally lead someone on.

However, I also don’t wanna assume everyone is flirting with me and telling them “I’m not interested in you like that” when I’m not even sure they’re hitting on me. I used to just bring up my bf in the conversation so that I hoped they would think “ah she has a boyfriend and she’s not interested in me”.

But my relationship is no longer a thing so I can’t do that.

To keep it short, I started dating a guy about 3 months now. Since he had another relationship end recently (a month or two before we dated) I already assumed it wouldn’t be official between us straight away.

Sadly he has just lost an important member of his family and has communicated that he wants to stabilize himself emotionally before committing to an official relationship. Which I understand and appreciate.

However, we’re practically together already but there’s no label attached to it, as per his request. Since he is in a state of mourning, I’m willing to wait for him but how long is an appropriate time to wait for someone to make the relationship official?