u/Akr0o

So a bit of context. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now, I was 18 and she was 19. Everything started off good, but I moved out of my parent’s house about a week after getting with her. I had been having issues at home for years and finally decided it was time to go. I went with my uncle for several months. My girlfriend also moved out, she lived with her grandma but went with her brother afterwards. After a while we eventually moved in together with a couple of coworkers and one of my girlfriend’s sisters. We have been here for a little over half a year, but recently we’ve been getting in fights that I feel like are completely pointless and a waste of time.

One of the most recent fights that occurred happened about a month ago, I went on vacation with family, my girlfriend was supposed to come but missed out because we found out about a week prior she had to get surgery for something and ended up staying with her mom in Mexico. She had to go to the clinic daily for them to check on her and give her medication. One of the days I was on vacation she sent me a photo of an instagram account I followed, it was a picture of one of the girls that lives with us, and she asked why I followed her. For a bit of context when she first moved in I followed her because I figured if I ever need to talk with her I could just message her. She ended up being a really dirty person and doesn’t clean up after herself at all, but I didn’t know this when I followed her. I explained to my girlfriend I followed her in case I ever needed to talk to her, and she started arguing that I don’t need to follow her and she felt disgusted that I did. I tried explaining I did the same thing with another person that used to live with us, I only followed him because he lived with us, I never really talked with him. But she just kept asking why I followed the girl and that it’s disgusting. She then blocked me for several hours while I kept trying to call and text her. After a while she unblocked me and talked to me like nothing.

The next fight happened just this morning. I wouldn’t even call it a fight but whatever. My girlfriend went with her mom on Saturday and they went to visit family in Mexico. I didn’t go because I have a work, and she is on disability pay so she doesn’t need to worry about work at the moment. I woke up to seeing several messages on my phone and a missed call from my girlfriend. She was just saying good morning and sending me pictures of her breakfast, she then asked why I wasn’t answering, attempted to call me once, then said “I guess I’ll go eat shit”. I woke up about 20 minutes after the last message. I responded to each message then tried to call her but she didn’t answer. I tried calling her again to which she simply declined and said don’t talk to me. I asked her why she doesn’t want to talk and she doesn’t answer me. I went to the living room to complain to her sister and she told me my girlfriend had sent her a message asking if I was at the house. After that I called a couple more times, but she only answered one and hung up right after answering.

What am I supposed to do? I love her but I feel like I’m wasting my time sometimes, I get worried when we argue like this but im worried about her not answering, I’m not even worried about whatever we argue about. At the moment I am mad that she’s mad at me for not answering, like there has been times I’ve sent her messages while working and she doesn’t answer and I get home and find her asleep or barley waking up. But I’m not mad about it. We have talked about stuff like this before, there’s a lot of double standards, she gets mad at stuff I never would and she knows it.