u/Alarmed_Issue_1922

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I am 19M and my partner is 19F. I am completely overwhelmed and need advice from people who have been through something similar.

We have been together since we were 15. About a year in, her parents found out and wanted us to separate. She sent me a picture of herself sitting on top of a building with her legs hanging off the edge, so I stayed. Things were difficult and we had arguments — she started talking to other guys and dancing with them. I got hurt and made mistakes too.

Now for the past while she has been threatening to kill herself every time I try to leave or create any distance. She keeps me on call for 24 hours, I cannot work, I cannot go out. She has a CA exam coming up and says if she fails she will kill herself. When I tried reaching out to her sister for help, she threatened to kill herself if I ever contact her family again.

I am 19, I am depressed, I feel completely trapped and I do not know what to do. Has anyone dealt with a partner who uses self-harm threats as a way to control the relationship? How did you handle it without making things worse? Any advice is appreciated.

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I am 19M and my partner is 19F. I am completely overwhelmed and need advice from people who have been through something similar.

We have been together since we were 15. About a year in, her parents found out and wanted us to separate. She sent me a picture of herself sitting on top of a building with her legs hanging off the edge, so I stayed. Things were difficult and we had arguments — she started talking to other guys and dancing with them. I got hurt and made mistakes too.

Now for the past while she has been threatening to kill herself every time I try to leave or create any distance. She keeps me on call for 24 hours, I cannot work, I cannot go out. She has a CA exam coming up and says if she fails she will kill herself. When I tried reaching out to her sister for help, she threatened to kill herself if I ever contact her family again.

I am 19, I am depressed, I feel completely trapped and I do not know what to do. Has anyone dealt with a partner who uses self-harm threats as a way to control the relationship? How did you handle it without making things worse? Any advice is appreciated.