u/Alarming-Ant373

Hi everyone,
I could really use some advice because I feel a bit confused about a situation I just went through.
I met a guy in a more “traditional” way, his friend’s mom saw me and thought I would be a good match for him, so we got in contact. We started talking, and pretty quickly the conversations became serious (future, values, etc.).
The thing is, it all moved really fast. We only talked for about a week (honestly more like a few proper days), and we never even met in person or FaceTimed properly. Because of that, I felt like I didn’t have enough time to actually develop real feelings, everything felt rushed and a bit like a “process” instead of something natural.
He ended things and said something along the lines of:
*“I understand what you’re saying, but I feel like we are too different. I wish you all the best.”*
After that, I sent him this (because I felt like I didn’t get to say what I really felt):
*“Hey, I’m sorry if I seem like a bit much right now. I’ve just been a bit bothered by our conversation yesterday, and I hope you don’t see me as childish for saying this. I feel like I didn’t really get to say what I had on my mind when we ended things. I know you asked if I agreed, and I did, but I also knew it was your decision, and I didn’t feel like I could say much else without it seeming like I was trying to force you.*
*I think what bothered me is that I didn’t get to express my own perspective properly. If it was up to me, I would have suggested taking things slower. Not because I want to waste time, but because it all went really fast — we only talked for about a week (really just a few proper days), and we didn’t even meet or really get to know each other properly.*
*I’m not trying to change your mind, I just needed to say what I didn’t say yesterday, because I kind of felt bad for holding it back.”*
Now I’m left wondering:
Is it worth reaching out again and suggesting we take it slower?
Or is that just me holding on to something that clearly wasn’t right?
Has anyone experienced something similar where things moved too fast and it affected the connection?
I don’t want to come across as desperate or try to change his mind if he’s already sure, but at the same time, I feel like we didn’t really give it a fair chance.

Hi everyone,
I could really use some advice because I feel a bit confused about a situation I just went through.
I met a guy in a more “traditional” way, his friend’s mom saw me and thought I would be a good match for him, so we got in contact. We started talking, and pretty quickly the conversations became serious (future, values, etc.).
The thing is, it all moved really fast. We only talked for about a week (honestly more like a few proper days), and we never even met in person or FaceTimed properly. Because of that, I felt like I didn’t have enough time to actually develop real feelings, everything felt rushed and a bit like a “process” instead of something natural.
He ended things and said something along the lines of:
“I understand what you’re saying, but I feel like we are too different. I wish you all the best.”
After that, I sent him this (because I felt like I didn’t get to say what I really felt):
“Hey, I’m sorry if I seem like a bit much right now. I’ve just been a bit bothered by our conversation yesterday, and I hope you don’t see me as childish for saying this. I feel like I didn’t really get to say what I had on my mind when we ended things. I know you asked if I agreed, and I did, but I also knew it was your decision, and I didn’t feel like I could say much else without it seeming like I was trying to force you.
I think what bothered me is that I didn’t get to express my own perspective properly. If it was up to me, I would have suggested taking things slower. Not because I want to waste time, but because it all went really fast — we only talked for about a week (really just a few proper days), and we didn’t even meet or really get to know each other properly.
I’m not trying to change your mind, I just needed to say what I didn’t say yesterday, because I kind of felt bad for holding it back.”
Now I’m left wondering:
Is it worth reaching out again and suggesting we take it slower?
Or is that just me holding on to something that clearly wasn’t right?
Has anyone experienced something similar where things moved too fast and it affected the connection?
I don’t want to come across as desperate or try to change his mind if he’s already sure, but at the same time, I feel like we didn’t really give it a fair chance.

Hi everyone,
I could really use some advice because I feel a bit confused about a situation I just went through.
I met a guy in a more “traditional” way, his friend’s mom saw me and thought I would be a good match for him, so we got in contact. We started talking, and pretty quickly the conversations became serious (future, values, etc.).
The thing is, it all moved really fast. We only talked for about a week (honestly more like a few proper days), and we never even met in person or FaceTimed properly. Because of that, I felt like I didn’t have enough time to actually develop real feelings, everything felt rushed and a bit like a “process” instead of something natural.
He ended things and said something along the lines of:
“I understand what you’re saying, but I feel like we are too different. I wish you all the best.”
After that, I sent him this (because I felt like I didn’t get to say what I really felt):
“Hey, I’m sorry if I seem like a bit much right now. I’ve just been a bit bothered by our conversation yesterday, and I hope you don’t see me as childish for saying this. I feel like I didn’t really get to say what I had on my mind when we ended things. I know you asked if I agreed, and I did, but I also knew it was your decision, and I didn’t feel like I could say much else without it seeming like I was trying to force you.
I think what bothered me is that I didn’t get to express my own perspective properly. If it was up to me, I would have suggested taking things slower. Not because I want to waste time, but because it all went really fast, we only talked for about a week (really just a few proper days), and we didn’t even meet or really get to know each other properly.
I’m not trying to change your mind, I just needed to say what I didn’t say yesterday, because I kind of felt bad for holding it back.”
Now I’m left wondering:
Is it worth reaching out again and suggesting we take it slower?
Or is that just me holding on to something that clearly wasn’t right?
Has anyone experienced something similar where things moved too fast and it affected the connection?
I don’t want to come across as desperate or try to change his mind if he’s already sure, but at the same time, I feel like we didn’t really give it a fair chance.
Any honest advice would really help