r/MuslimSupportGroup

Hi i am trying to be a better muslim everyday since an incident happened with me which i cannot forget
Its been a month and i am still struggling
Praying
I have this attitude that Allah is with ones who are patient and i am
Doing it
Still the overthinking captures me everytime and literally i am thinking of doing something to me
But i try not to because many people will suffer my loss
1am alive because of them
I did istikhara too that may be it can help I can tell the story but its a whole mess
I am trying daily
I lost my spark
Everything
I hope someone can help and guide me through this difficult phase
Tysm

Assalamu alaikum. I’m facing a situation where someone I love deeply may be separated from our family because of an immigration issue. We’ve waited many years, and now there’s an obstacle that may prevent him from coming with us.

I’m doing everything I can, but the outcome is ultimately with Allah.

What duas, salah, fasting or dhikr can I make when I desperately need Allah to open a seemingly impossible door?

If Allah has ever opened a door for you when you thought there was no way, please share your experience. I really need hope right now. 🤍

Please keep us in your duas.

assalamualaikum, its weird that everything that i do lead to failure like everything, at first i try shrugg it of saying Allah has a plan for me as time passes failure after failure it starting to get to me no matter how much i pray to Allah to ease my affair in this dunya more failure comes.

Im so down i dont know what to do anymore im so loss, is Allah hating me for trying to work for something that i want, is it wrong to chase for dunya matter?

If so why did Allah even making me exist in this dunya in the first place. I even fail to pray 5 times a day

Assalamualaikum, please pray for me to pass it is very important for me, I prayed a lot but I am still feeling anxious. Please remember me in your prayers and make dua for me.

I have a very unstable relationship with Islam, I will feel super connected and then almost stop believing in between, I have felt a very strong relationship with God while I was going through a depressive episode (it was a very sad time for me idk if depression would be the right word though) and it was such a high I miss that connection and during that time I very deeply believed God would help me in a few situations I was constantly begging for however things have only gone downhill from there and my connection with Allah has deteriorated. I blame him for a lot of things knowing I shouldn't but I just can't help it knowing he has all the power in the world and still isn't helping me (or maybe he is and I just don't have the wisdom to see that rn?) Idk but I genuinely do not feel guilty for not praying anymore my parents keep asking me to get regular with my prayers but I just don't feel that connection anymore and I don't even feel guilty about it idk what to do man

I've heard stories of Taxi drivers who are obliged to bring passengers to places like brothels or liquor stores, to pubs, bring people alcoholic beverages or other haram foods if they pay for it. The guys who own these companies couldn't care less about that. They want money. Even the muslim entrepreneurs who own Taxi businesses do these things.

Here in Austria we're not allowed to tell passengers "No" and I also can't say "No boss I'm not gonna pick that guy up" on the phone.

So what am I gonna do? I can't work in stores stacking shelves with haram things. I can't work as a car salesman near the car dealership where I live because I'm forced to help and sign leasing contracts with customers which contain riba.

Every job I found contains some kind of Haram and I don't want to attract Allahs displeasure on me.

I don't have the physical capacity to work in cleaning or construction.

I had my own pizza place for 10 years but I had to close it because I was burned out working 80 hours per week. I sold halal foods but barely made enough to survive and pay my monthly bills.

I'm really frustrated.

 I suffered sex*al trauma a few years ago that led me to develop hypersexuality, where I can get intense uncontrollable desires that can affect my day-to-day life. I have been trying so hard to not fall into any sin, I've been trying for years. I know masturbation is haram, I know an*l is haram even between spouses, but I just can't help it.

I feel so guilty everytime, I always make sure I pray and make tawbah, but I still feel so guilty.

Lately, I have gone through a 'break up' there was a girl that we both had the intention of getting married in a halal way, and after a lot of planning and a lot of effort that was put into it, we called it all off, and ever since then my hypersexuality became even worse than before, it was already really bad before, and now its just constant.

I was looking for a scholarly opinion that would allow me to give in to desires, but I just felt so guilty. I usually follow the majority of scholars, looking for a minority felt so weird and full of shame.

I'm too broke to go to therapy, and the therapy offered at my university isn't designed for these cases. I don't know what to do.

I'm honestly struggling really badly with Islam right now and I need someone to actually explain something to me.

I've spent years looking into Islam, Christianity, atheism, arguments for God, arguments against God, the Qur'an, contradictions, Muhammad, everything. And I'm still basically 50/50. I genuinely want Allah to exist. I'm not trying to disprove Islam.

A few months ago I got to a point where I thought: okay, if Allah exists, He knows exactly how badly I want to know He's there. So I made a very specific dua.

I asked Allah for an old friend I haven't spoken to in around 20 years to contact me somehow. I don't care why. He could randomly think of me, find my account, have a dream about me, literally anything. I just wanted the contact itself.

The reason I picked this is because if it happened after I specifically asked for it, I honestly believe it would be enough for me to finally say, "Okay, I know I'm not alone."

I prayed. I made dua over and over. I prayed Tahajjud. I even did Salat al-Hajah. I waited. Months. Nothing.

And this is where I'm genuinely stuck.

The Qur'an says:

«"Call upon Me; I will respond to you." (40:60)»

And when Ibrahim asked Allah to show him how He gives life to the dead because he wanted his heart reassured, Allah actually showed him.

So when people tell me, "Maybe Allah will answer your dua in another way," I honestly don't understand it. I wasn't asking for a random worldly thing. I was asking for reassurance that Allah exists because I genuinely want to believe.

And yes, I know there are explanations about dua being answered differently, but I need someone to actually explain how that applies here.

If Allah exists and He knows:

\- I've spent years searching

\- I genuinely want Him to exist

\- I'm scared that I'm wrong

\- I've specifically asked for reassurance

\- I've prayed Tahajjud and kept asking

\- and I genuinely believe this particular event would bring me peace

why wouldn't He answer this specific dua?

I'm not asking for "Allah knows best" and that's it. I know He knows best. I'm asking what is the actual reason this would happen if Islam is true?

Because honestly I'm reaching a point where I'm thinking maybe I'm just talking to nobody.

I really don't want that to be true.

So if you believe Islam is true, please explain this to me like I'm genuinely asking in good faith. What am I missing?