AITA? Am I expects to much did Mother’s Day?
*Originally post on AITH on 5/9 at 10pm. Didn’t realize it was removed*
I can’t tell if I’m expecting too much or not. My partner (20M) and I (18) have been together for about 4 years. I just had a baby about 2 months ago. This would be my first Mother’s Day.
I asked him if we had any plans for Mother’s Day about a week ago. He said that he was going to be taking his mom out all day on Mother’s Day just like always (we’ve always gone our separate ways on Mother’s Day). I asked what about me and the baby. He said that I’m not his mother and this day is about spending the day with your mom. He said I wouldn’t understand that as I never had a mom. He was going to leave me to take care of the baby and spend time with our son. I told him that we can still spend time with his mom for half the day but Mother’s Day is also about me now. He said that I was selfish and that his mom brought him into this world and deserved to be celebrated. I told him that yes she does but I brought his baby into this world too. He started yelling at me about how it was unfair to expect him to celebrate me and get me all these gifts. I told him all I wanted was a card, a meal, for him to wash the bottles/daily cleaning, and to be thanked for being the mother of his child. He told me to screw off and that he was going to do it the way it’s always been. That it wasn’t his responsibility to thank me for being my son’s mom and that all the house stuff/taking care of the baby is my responsibility because I’m not working (I’m on maternity leave and worked till I was 39 weeks pregnant and plan to return in 2 weeks). I have absolute no help as I don’t have family (grew out of foster care) and his side hates me for “ruining his life” even though he was the one to tell me to keep the baby before I told him what I wanted to do (when I told him he was acting all happy). He even said that his mom said that I don’t deserve to be celebrated as I’m a teen mom and that we shouldn’t glamorize that. We haven’t really talked since.
Now it’s the night before Mother’s Day and he just left to spend the night over there too because he “has a long day coming and needs to sleep”( even though he does none of the night feed or anything for the baby at night). Before he left, I asked if he was serious about this. He told me he was and he’ll be back Monday as he would be getting home late and will need sleep because he’ll be exhausted after the day. He said he also was using his PTO to take Monday off (he told me he didn’t have any left so he can’t go to the baby’s appointments or watch him when I have to go see my doctor). So now I’m stuck home alone with a newborn for 2 days by myself and not even a thank you on Mother’s Day.
Am I wrong or expecting too much? Do I just really don’t understand Mother’s Day? Am I the asshole for feeling like I deserve at least a thank you and a day of rest?