AITAH for not letting my mom stay at my house when she has multiple shifts in a row?
A couple months ago, my mom (50F) called to tell me (28F) she planned to quit her current full time job and apply for a part time role two hours away from where she lived.
When she told me this, I asked how this would work since she still has two kids living at home (14M and 17M) and it's quite the drive.
She assured me it would work great since it's only part time and she planned on selling her house and buying a new one an hour away from her new work location. Knowing her credit score is insanely low and she let the house fall into serious disrepair after she divorced my step dad and kicked him out, I advised her not to do it, but she wouldn't listen. She applied and got the job.
Now, she is realizing just how long the drives are and she found out the "part time" job has 6 hour shifts 7 days in a row, 3 days in a row, etc. Less than 24 hours before her first shift, she texted me to ask if she could stay the night for a week straight.
Not just her but her dog too.
My husband, daughter, and I live an hour from her new job and our cat is super anxious and pees in the house if anything changes or isn't to his liking. The neighbor's dog is an AH and barks at everyone and wanders into our yard constantly. On top of that, my husband wakes up between 3:30am and 5am during the week.
I said all this to my mom and told her she could stay for the super late nights and early morning shifts but this couldn't be a constant and she'd have to figure out other lodgings eventually.
Tonight, when I told her she could stay tomorrow but she'll need to figure out other options in the future, she said, "No it's ridiculously, I'm your mom is you ever needed a place to stay I always had a spot for you it's fine."
Every time I try to put boundaries in place so we don't constantly have a guest staying with us all summer (and likely past summer), she just guilt trips me and makes me feel like an AH.
TLDR: My mom quit her full time job with benefits to work part time two hours away. When I asked her how that would work and suggested it was a bad idea, she ignored my advice. Now, she's asking to stay with us for days at a time (for an unspecified amount of time until she sells her house) because I'm closer and she's discovering she didn't plan things out properly.