u/Alcix

Recently (this week) had a 15+ year relationship end. Things were good for the first half, then started going south.

The romance started to dissipate for a couple years, we had a discussion. They realized they were trans and I realized I was Ace. Things kind of picked back up after this, romantically, but as I didn't want sex things started getting weird again. We had another talk and they wanted sex. I was willing to do some things because I didn't mind doing something for others, but they wanted someone sexually attracted to them. So we agreed to an open relationship.

They'd go get their fix with others and I would be the romantic foundation so to speak. And it worked....for a while...then the romance died yet again.

Fast forward to just this week and they said they had no romantic feelings for me, I confessed I was aware, they said they still love me as a friend (saying I'm their best friend) and we're currently still roommates.

Even though I saw it coming, it still hurts.

I just want someone to be romantic with but without sex. 

I also have few irl friends to confide in or talk to or even hang out with because my work schedule is awful. So I just feel more lonely than ever.

(Will likely delete this)