u/Aleyix

Hi, so I have very intense sensory issues and one is with material especially thick rough fabrics. I only wear cotton, viscose and very specific type of fleece. I always wear deodorant as BO really bothers me to a point I can't sit and relax.

However, my partner wears rough materials and my brain sees it like a threat as if he has razors attached to his shirt. I feel unsettled and immediate relief when he wears cotton. I can avoid being close to the shirt but it's like mentally preparing incase of a scrape.

In terms of smells, he doesn't use deodrant unless I remind him, as he thinks waiting until he smells means he then has prompt to shower 😂 cute but his BO is bad when it hits and it isn't always convenient for a shower like we may be out. It happens a lot. I also have huge issue with scents and he seems ok changing laundry powder and using a deodeant I prefer.

So, while I can manage this on a level with recognising my distress as what it is and lack of actual threat, I worry a little of what he may wear next (he has a very colourful fashion sense and much modern clothing he likes isn't soft or cotton). He is understanding of my sensory need for low light levels but he is very and rightfully adamant that his clothing is his autonomy which is fair but he is NT so I don't think he quite gets it's a sensory thing and not me trying to control what he wears.

Thinking to lowkey go shopping for loungewear and see if he might like some cotton or soft pieces 🙏 then at least he could change into those when we cuddle at home 😁 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

Any other tips or advice?

TIA 💜

Hi, so firstly I have the tools so to speak and have lived with bpd since I was a teen (in my 30s now). I know myself well enough and cope alone enough to appreciate most people won't help me the way I can. However, in relationships I expect mutual desire to work with another's needs to find balance and 'talk things out' it helps most people process.

So I hate this part of dating - someone new claims to want to know and understand bpd for future and then the first sign of conflict is a shut down and the 'we will talk tomorrow' text shuts it down. It is fine to want that but first acknowledge the other person's feelings without fixing and share theirs, otherwise this tells me the precedent for future disagreement is simply - delay and avoid.

I wish I could have faith in such statement but I'm only 1 month into this relationship and it's not the first thing I have noticed they overlook me on and despite the person allegedly exploring bpd and listening to content I shared and they requested, it's like ok I can calm myself down now but in 2 months if this is the response and I'm more attached - hello darkness my old friend.

I'm writing here because I just need to express in a space that understands - we work on ourselves all the time, we see detail in things, we can help people but we can't help someone to be someone who sees things that they are avoiding looking at. That 'view' should never be the sight of us ❤️

I won't call it quits yet but I am going to keep distance and get back into my dbt workbook so that my head won't spiral outta control. If things don't improve then it is a case of accepting and letting go when I don't want to but have to.

Peace and love to you all 💜

Hi, looking for muscle and joint support, mostly upper body issues. I tried collagen capsules from one place that seemed to help but messed up my stomach so I had to stop taking it. Whether I had with food or without the issues persisted, so put it down to reaction. I have dairy and gluten allergy.

I have had some in the past that were fine but no longer available.

Any tips appreciated 🙏 Thank you

Hi, so I was prescribed this for my nerve conditions and bladder pain. I have been type 1 diabetic for decades with tight control and have other auto immune conditions. I have two eye conditions mentioned which both are worsened with increased eye pressure and the PDS can cause eye pressure.

Both are monitored regularly, however given my symptoms of pain are not new and I accepted this during a terrible flare, I haven't taken it but I am tempted if it can help with my bladder because I could be more active then and any help with sleep sounds good.

Medically it was this or Gabapentin/Pregabalin and they sound more dangerous to quit albeit slightly less risky eye wise. I am intending to try other non pharmaceuticals beforehand.

So I would very much appreciate if anyone else is in a similar boat and how it went for you? Thank you 💜