u/AlfaSierra17

Hello community. Me(M28) and my girlfriend (F23) are now dating for two years and three months. I am quite happy in the relationship in all regards except for one.

My girlfriend is sexually speaking very lazy. Let me explain it is not even that she lacks sexual desire it is just that she initiates rarely and always wants to do the same thing. Which is mastubating together with me until she comes and then have sex either in missionary or from behind.

I get that she likes it since she said she never orgasmed before we started dating not even alone. Then we started dating and after I would say 9 months it worked for her. Also we have quite a few toys. And the toy she likes to use everytime just works for her.

Now don't get me wrong I get and respect that she wants to orgasm I just am getting frustrated since she always wants to do it her way. She finishes and tells me that I can have sex with her now and just doesn't care for my wishes.

I told her a few times that I feel that she is very demanding and I feel like a afterthought a lot of times. But she always says she will be better but if at all after one or two times we are back at the usual.

I really start to feel frustrated and sad since I really love her and the sex is otherwise really nice on a emotional level.

What can I do and how can I stat this in a conversation?

Hello community. Me(M28) and my girlfriend (F23) are now dating for two years and three months. I am quite happy in the relationship in all regards except for one.

My girlfriend is sexually speaking very lazy. Let me explain it is not even that she lacks sexual desire it is just that she initiates rarely and always wants to do the same thing. Which is mastubating together with me until she comes and then have sex either in missionary or from behind.

I get that she likes it since she said she never orgasmed before we started dating not even alone. Then we started dating and after I would say 9 months it worked for her. Also we have quite a few toys. And the toy she likes to use everytime just works for her.

Now don't get me wrong I get and respect that she wants to orgasm I just am getting frustrated since she always wants to do it her way. She finishes and tells me that I can have sex with her now and just doesn't care for my wishes.

I told her a few times that I feel that she is very demanding and I feel like a afterthought a lot of times. But she always says she will be better but if at all after one or two times we are back at the usual.

I really start to feel frustrated and sad since I really love her and the sex is otherwise really nice on a emotional level.

What can I do and how can I stat this in a conversation?