u/AlmondCheese10

Hi everyone! And sorry if this question isn't quite what this room is for. I'm still fairly new to Reddit, so please forgive me if I'm committing some kind of Reddit crime. 😂

I'm 34, but apparently my personality didn't get the memo. I'm very young spirited, and people often assume I'm in my 20s when they first talk to me. I tend to get along really easily with younger people, and I've noticed that I seem to attract them quite often too because they said felt fun, the sense of humour, safe, cared, etc. Sometimes even people who are obviously way too young for me, which is very much a “NOPE, absolutely not” situation.

What I'm actually hoping to find is someone a little more mature and stable, someone who can be silly, spontaneous, and have fun with me, but who can also communicate properly, handle serious conversations, and genuinely knows what she wants.

I'm a soft masc myself, and I've found it surprisingly difficult to meet femme women who are looking for something genuinely serious. I'm not talking about finding anyone. I'm more interested in the kind of connection where both people actually want to build something together, communicate, put in effort, and eventually become each other's “home.”

So I'm curious: what usually makes you attracted to another woman, especially a soft masc?

Is it personality? Confidence? Emotional maturity? The way someone approaches you? The little things? Or is attraction simply witchcraft and I'm looking for a user manual? 😂

I'd genuinely love to hear your experiences, advice, or even lessons you've learned from past relationships.

What makes you notice a soft masc and think, “Hmm… I'd actually like to get to know her”?

I'm asking because I'd genuinely like to understand and maybe learn something. Not because I expect there to be some magical formula for attracting femmes. 😂 But if there is a secret handbook, I'd appreciate a copy!

I’m looking for manhwa similar to Bad Born Blood, especially ones where the story keeps throwing you off and you genuinely have no idea where the plot is going.

I don’t mind the genre action, thriller (depends I don't really prefer gore), psychological, fantasy, whatever, as long as it has good twists, unpredictable plot developments, and isn’t super easy to figure out.

My mom adopted a kitten when she was around 2 months old, and she's now almost 1 year old.

Since she was tiny, she’s always had a habit of biting us. At first we assumed she was just trying to play, so we always tried to be gentle with her and never encouraged rough play. But… the biting never really stopped. 😂

The weird part is that she can be incredibly sweet.

She’ll come up to us as if she wants attention, let us pet her, and start purring like the happiest little creature in the world. Then suddenly… CHOMP. Or she'll scratch us out of nowhere. We initially wondered if maybe something was hurting her, but we had her checked by a vet and apparently she’s completely healthy.

And then there was the clothing incident.

We bought her a little outfit because she’ll need to wear something temporarily after she gets spayed, so we wanted her to get used to wearing clothes beforehand. She absolutely hated it. She struggled to get it off, and once we removed it, she proceeded to tear the outfit apart like she had a personal vendetta against it.

At that point we just stared at her like… girl, it was literally a piece of fabric. 😭

She’s otherwise playful, affectionate, eats normally, and seems perfectly happy and healthy.

So… is this normal cat behavior? Is she overstimulated easily? Did we accidentally raise a tiny furry criminal? Or does she simply have the personality of someone who holds grudges? 😭

I’d love to hear from people who have had cats like this. Is there something we might be missing about her behavior?