Do you ever just see a gorgeous femme in the wild and have that blinding reminder of “godddd, I’m so gayyy” 🙈🤤😂
I’m muttering this to myself more and more every crying second!
Anyway, I hope everyone’s having a fab day! 💋☺️
It's so painful. Being without my butch partner as signifier, I'm a ghost to other queers. I feel like nothing gets to me more than a group of dykes passing me in the street and looking right through me. They can't clock me. It's a type of pain that only femmes who long to be seen understand. I've tried to explain this to my partner, and to other friends or allies, and while they have compassion for what it *must* feel like, they'll never get the experience of being passed by or looked through by your own community. Anyone else struggle with this?
Just got into a HEATED Reddit argument with a fellow lesbian who could not wrap her brain around the idea that butchfemme is so much more than just an aesthetic and that it’s actually political and always has been! She just didn’t want to hear anything I had to say and couldn’t believe that the roots of butchfemme are and always have been in blue collar 😒🙄
I’m so TIRED of people not understanding who and what we are! I’m so tired of butchfemme being misunderstood as just being a play upon straight dynamics- it’s unacceptable in this big year of 2026.
All my life ive kinda been scared to express my femininity and just shyed away from it. I think dressing masculine is easier but lately i wanted to try new things and shift over to dressing feminine so people stop being weird towards me for dressing like a boy. However, ive found it its pretty difficult to just be feminine after being masc my entire life and wanted to see if anyone went through the same thing before or had any tips? Especially with make up and clothing.
Just curious, can lesbians have body preferences? Just wondering because I feel like we don’t objectify women like men do.
I was told that since I have a preference (I LOVEEE a fem with big boobs 🤭) I’m objectifying women. I don’t believe that means I’m objectifying women. I feel like it’s normal to have a preference.
I was also told since im a fem I really shouldn’t be stuck on preference (this person said body preferences is a thing with studs because studs are more masculine like men. So they’re supposed to have a male mentality 😒)
I've always felt like I never presented "butch" enough to be desired by a feminine woman. Growing up, it was easy to be identified as a tomboy as the label just felt like it fit, but as I've matured, it doesn't feel like a change to something more "adult." Anytime someone were to describe me it would be something along the "sweet and cute" line instead of "strong and sexy" or something like that. I don't want to fall short of expectations, and it leaves me wondering if the feminine women I'm attracted to would even find me an option.
Thanks for taking the time to listen to my rant 😅
I have been with my GF for 3 years now. When we first got together, we had sex alot-nearly everyday. I know that things change, especially as we get older and the newness of the relationship wears off, but I am really struggling with how little she initiates with me. We are still really close, and I believe that things are okay, which makes this more frustrating. I know that for a woman my age, I should be okay with sex not being as significant and meaningful as it once was, but its still the primary way that I feel love. I dont want to be unfair to her, or her needs, but when does this become a "problem"? I mean is once or twice a week really unreasonable? Feeling frustrated and lost.
I’m trying to build my wardrobe and I have some long skirts that I absolutely love and I’m trying to find some shorter skirts (knee length/above knee ish) and I’m having a hard time, I’m not super tall (5’10) but all the skirts I’ve been able to find that I like are too short and I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for brands or sites to check out
Thanks 😊
All my life I've been misunderstood, they always accuse me of being straight because of my very feminine personality/style/tastes. Over time, it becomes very annoying to have to come out all the time, not to mention that this has always made my journey of finding a romantic partner difficult. It was always men who approached me and never women, and since I'm super shy, I couldn't approach them either. I still suffer a bit from this, and I wanted to "look" more gay just to take this burden off and improve my love life
I’m a 31 year old service top femme and it is so incredibly hard to find other femmes or pillow princesses. I tried a few dating apps and attract mainly mascs, is there any recommendations for dating apps or maybe dating discord servers?
Yearning for my future femme girlfriend in heels, in a saree, in anything… or maybe nothing 😈
Ma’am, do you want to play with my short hair? Or would you like to wear my denim shirt?
Can I remove your heels 👠… or maybe help you wear them?
Would you like me to do push-ups and steal a kiss 💋?
Or maybe we can go star-gazing from my car through the sunroof (you can totally flex our car as yours 🥰).
“Amore, where are you?”
Tiny disclaimer 💌
I’m genuinely single and looking for a future girlfriend. So if you’re already taken, please don’t flirt with me romantically.