u/Dove-Tale285

Why are homophobes upset Niger is banning Asexuality? By their homophobic logic it makes sense

Why are homophobes upset Niger is banning Asexuality? By their homophobic logic it makes sense

This situation shows how illogical, hypocritical, sick and warped homophobes thinking is. I saw alot of religious and non-religious homophobes aganist Niger banning asexuality. They say "how can you jail someone for not wanting to sleep with someone, that's basically legalizing rape." But isn't that what they been doing to lesbians and gay people for CENTURIES? Banning homosexuality has been legalising rape and legalising imposing what you think someone else should be doing sexually this whole time. According to homophobic logic banning asexuality should make sense too.

Homophobes often say:

  1. Homosexuality is unnatural because you can't reproduce. Even non-religious homophobes say this is scientifically true. (And for some reason that means they should oppress gay people??? As if not reproducing is immoral?)

Well asexuals also can't reproduce so by homophobic logic shouldn't they be banned, silenced, not talked about in schools, killed, hanged, shamed, hunted, disowned, kicked out their family and made illegal too? Despite human genitals being designed with the possibility of same and opposite sex intercourse ( e.g. g-spot is in the rectum for men and the clitoris is not stimulated by P in V sex, but it is stimulated by scissoring, oral etc) and despite homosexuality occurring in over 1,500 species people STILL call it unnatural so I know homophobes are uneducated. However, even by their own warped logic they should agree with Niger because asexuals don't reproduce.

They claim if everyone was gay the species would be extinct so that's why homosexuality is bad and we should be oppressed. So why not apply that logic to asexuals? It don't make sense anyway because gay people are not infertility and we can have kids in another way that aligns with our sexuality even without scientific involvement. Plus everyone isn't gay and never has been naturally so it's kinda a weird worry.

I have no idea why homophobes are more concerned with gay people having children than gay people themselves. They are so concerned lesbians don't reproduce they have to oppress?? They must think women's wombs are communal property. Besides even saying that proves they are rapists because it means their intention is not for lesbians to be single. It's to force hetero sex on lesbians. If that wasn't their intention lesbians not reproducing wouldn't matter either way because whether we are made illegal and forced to stay single for safety or happy in relationships together, we're still not reproducing

(Of course some lesbians still have children but since it's not the way homophobes want it to be they still have a problem with it.)

The only way a lesbian is reproducing (at least the only way they will accept it happening) is in a marriage with a man. So they have always wanted to force unwanted sex on lesbians. They have always been rapists. What's the difference between doing that to a lesbian vs an asexual woman? It's ALWAYS been rapist minded. Why have an issue with making people's sexuality illegal now?

2. Some homophobes say homosexuality is a sin because the bible said so.

They refer to:

Leviticus 18:22: "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination."

and

"For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature..." (Romans 1:26, ESV)

But guess what the bible also says this:

"And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea..." Genesis 1:28

By this logic christian homophobes should hate asexuality equally as homosexuality because asexuality is not "fruitful" either. Even if the bible is ok with singleness, asexuality would still be unbiblical because if god commanded us to be fruitful how could that same god also create asexuals? So shouldn't little asexual girls be told they are possessed by the devil, disobeying god, going to hell or unnatural too? Shouldn't they be beaten and sent to christian conversion "therapy" so they can like & sleep with men? That's what christians do to their lesbian daughters. So why not? Why are the homophobes crying foul now? They should be agreeing with Niger.

Homophobes have always been rapey. It's never been enough for gay people to be single, they have always actively wanted to force, pressure and/ or shame gay people into unwanted sex with the opposite gender, so what's the problem now? Why have an issue with Niger's stance on asexuality?

They have always decided that lesbians don't know what they want sexually and they know better what sexual relationships we should be in. They have always said women have reproductive systems therefore lesbians are meant to be with men. They always say we ovulate so we must secretly crave men at least once a month. (Ironically they never say gay men must crave women 24/7 because they produce sperm 24/7 though).

They always say lesbians are just traumatized by men. That the trauma not only turned us off men, but also somehow generated attraction to women??? They say that with no proof or even a logical explanation of what biological mechanisms could even potentially do that btw. But they reject real proof of homosexuality occurring naturally in over 1,500 species or studies showing the consistency in lesbians sexual arousal responses to women only. Or is the story we are originally bisexual and trauma turned off our attraction to men, leaving only our attraction to women remaining? But then they say even bisexuality is unnatural due to the same sex attraction component of it, so were we originally straight or not??? Upon inspection, it don't make sense.

Homophobia never made sense and it has always been based on a rapist, entitled, lack of respect for other's boundaries mindset. So why are homophobes condemning Niger? They should be in agreement. In celebration. This should show them how insanely they treat gay people but homophobes lack self awareness, logic and they are over emotional so I doubt it.

u/Dove-Tale285 — 3 days ago

Figuring out my type: Do I want to be her or be with her? Feminine women make me insecure?

Disclaimer: I'm asking for your experiences with this topic. I'm not asking for nobody online to solve my whole life.

The label of masc vs femme vs stem isn't really the issue. I'm just using those words so i can communicate. even before i knew of all these labels i still felt this way. if a woman is how I want to be i.e more feminine, prettier, curvier I'm concerned insecurity may be masking my sexual attraction to her. I'm also wondering if having a woman that's too similar to me means there would no spark even without any potential insecurity. Yeah just wondering if anyone else had worked through these feelings

I'm femme and I've always been drawn visually to feminine women. Their body, smile, hair, outfits, jewelry, graceful movements, smooth soft skin, perfume etc. I do feel attraction but I'm wondering what type of attraction. Is it aesthetic, is it a desire to be like her or is it sexual attraction? A mixture of all 3? Is it because there was a lack of masculine woman representation for me growing up, so all I had was feminine women?

I remember having a crush on my maths teacher as a kid. She was really pretty, tall, feminine and curvy. She was kind and I remember feeling really warm and fuzzy when she looked at me and being almost addicted to making her smile & having her attention on me. I remember admiring her body alot but looking back, I feel it lacked sexual energy.

I like the energy & dynamic with masculine women, particularly dominant, protective, caring masculine women. I find that dynamic more intense sexually and I find there's a spark more. They have traits I like and don't have. Femininity sometimes feels too similar to me. But I visually prefer more feminine women. I just like the biceps of masculine women that work out and I like masculine style just not too masculine. With masc women they tend to wear baggy clothes so I can't see their body shape so their hotness, so to speak, gets hidden for me.

I'm basically trying to figure out what my type is and whether my feelings towards feminine women are I want to be her, I want to be with her or both.

I'm also trying to figure out if I only want masculine women because it makes me feel more feminine, prettier like we're not competing to be pretty in the same way (I find masculine women pretty but it's different to feminine pretty).

Do I like them because I feel like I'm fulfilling what society wants from me? I've always struggled with my body & personality not feeling feminine enough because I'm not that curvy (I have a inverted triangle body shape). Would getting with a curvy feminine goddess make me too insecure? Is that why I lack sexual energy with them even though I'm visually drawn to them?

I'm just trying to figure this all out so I can make authentic decisions not driven by insecurity or suppressed emotions. Is my type a stemme? A combination of these traits? idk. Do y'all have any experience or advice regarding this?

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