u/Alone-Hat2815

I live with my partner and I work from home pretty much full time. My gf works from home around once a week and in the office 4 times a week. This means I have around 30-35 mins to myself before she gets home. Once she is home we pretty much spend the evening together.

This means I don't really have much time to do my hobbies such as reading, catching up on tv shows, playing video games etc since when we're together we try to do things both of us will enjoy. I decided the best approach is to stay up later a few nights a week to have some time to myself and just relax.

I started this a few weeks ago and told my partner about what I was planning. The first couple of times I stayed up it was fine and then my gf started staying up when I was planning to. This meant when I was trying to watch tv, play video games etc she was distracting me and watching videos etc on her phone so I couldn’t hear the tv and I wasn't getting the time to myself.

I tried talking to her about it and she just said she can stay up if she wants. I pointed out she only seems to want to stay up when I am and that she knew I was doing it to get some time to myself. She just said I can't tell her what to do and she can stay up if she wants. She accused me of not wanting to spend time with her and I just told her that yeah when I'm staying up,

I don't want to spend time with anyone since it's supposed to be time to myself. She just said I was being unfair by avoiding her and telling her she can't stay up.

Does anyone that and advice on how best to approach it or have any other views on it?

tl;dr I’ve started staying up to get a bit of time to myself. I explained to my gf why I’m doing it and she said she understood. She then started staying up and said I was unfair for being annoyed.

My girlfriend and I live together and have discussed buying a house late next year. We agreed it would be in our current town. She works in a nearby town but it’s a short commute and I primarily work from home. 

I applied for a new job last month and it’s in the town my gf works in. We agreed to potentially look for houses there if I get the job since it is an in person job. I could have selected other locations including a city fairly close to us but we discussed it and the commute would just be too long, 

I got offered the job and I start in 6 weeks. My gf has depression and has low periods. She’s currently feeling low and is mentioning buying a house in the city near us instead as it’s a nicer area with more to do as we currently live in a small town that isn’t great. I pointed out that would mean me commuting an hour each way which I wouldn’t be doing. 

I said she’s can’t be this erratic with major life decisions and can’t let her low mood just throw all plans out of the window. She said she wasn’t big I pointed out she’s started feeling low and is suddenly talking about moving somewhere new and changing her job. I said the commute isn’t just long, it would be expensive. 

She said the increase in pay would pay for it but I just said I’m not taking a better job to just spend all of my extra money on travel costs. She said I could look for something else but I refused since I was looking forward to starting this job and I’m not going to be immediately looking to leave. 

She said I wasn’t being fair but I pointed out she’s the one wanting us to uproot our lives just because she’s feeling low. I said I won’t be moving and she called me unsupportive and said I should be considering it.

AITA for refusing to buy a house in another city?