Not every marriage ends in regret
I see so many people around our age saying they don’t want to get married anymore, because of cheating, emotional disconnect, dead bedrooms, toxic in-laws, unrealistic expectations, divorce stories everywhere.
And honestly, those fears are valid. These things do happen.
But I also think the internet has made the worst marriages the loudest marriages. Quiet, healthy, stable relationships rarely become discussion topics.
Marriage is not some magical fairytale where you find “the one” and never struggle again. Even good marriages go through phases where you fight, feel misunderstood, feel distant, or even question your choices.
The real question is: Is this the person you can keep fighting with and fighting for?
Compatibility matters more than perfection. Respect matters more than romance. And the intention to understand each other matters more than winning every argument.
Not every marriage works. Some absolutely should end. Nobody should stay in something that destroys them.
But I also don’t think marriage as a concept is doomed.
Every relationship in life is a gamble , friendships fail, siblings drift apart, parents and children hurt each other too. Yet we still believe meaningful relationships are possible.
So maybe the answer isn’t becoming cynical. Maybe it’s staying open-minded enough to recognise something good when it comes.
Wishing you all the best !