u/Alsaheer_2022

I’ve been a dsp within the same agency for almost 4 years now and contemplating whether to stay and move up or leave to find a better paying gig. For majority of my time, I had an easy position that didn’t pay much but had a lot of benefits, flexibility, OT, and no supervisor on my back. I was offered a promotion a year ago that seemed good at face value getting more money and less hours. However, despite my best efforts it’s been a curse in disguise. Less benefits, severely restricted OT, and lots of ppw compared to the previous position. I’m basically doing a team of people’s jobs rolled into one. What’s worse, my previous position got a wage increase while is still lower than my previous position, they continue to get more hours. So basically I’m doing more ppw than anyone else besides managers, but I’m working less and making less compared to my colleagues. As an added bonus, I also find myself scapegoated when my supervisors aren’t meeting the quota set by the higher ups. Is it worth it for me to stay one more year in this position or find something better sooner rather than later. I’m at the added disadvantage of being soon to be on my own financially. What would you do in this situation?

I’m a male in my late twenties, have struggled with life long self esteem issues and anxiety. I have been hitting the mental decline for several years. I’ve had multiple rock bottoms. COVID-19 was when it started. Daily life was uprooted drastically and you had minimal supports. 1st Rock Bottom was 2020 when my family would not support my aspirations to enlist in the Navy due to stigma surrounding our cultural background. I ended up withdrawing from my application to enlist. I think that’s when I started seeking long term counseling support from a social worker. Second rock bottom was 2024, after coming back from a long vacation I came to see the home my family was living in for 20 years was given an eviction notice and my dog was sick due to negligence from my mother. He died shortly before the end of 2024. In 2025, me and my mother were kicked out of the house by my father after fighting with him over his irresponsibility over the eviction case. I was taking in by a “family friend” who turned out to be very abusive towards my mother and me. I tried seeking assistance from my brother and sister but they seemed indifferent or preoccupied to help me or even at least my mother. After constant urgings by my mother to find a new place to leave to escape the abuse, I finally found a place to live that I could afford. I was preparing to leave at the end of this month in 2026 and go on good terms with the “family friend”. However, my mom without telling me left and called the police on the “friend”. The “friend” went ballistic and demanded I gtfo. I tried calming her down and explained to her I would leave at the end of the month when I collect my things. She demanded I leave immediately and called me and my mother names and ungrateful for the “support” she gave us. I snapped when she said I was a danger to her and her family and said I would SA her daughter. I screamed back at her and called her a Cnt for all the crap she put me and my mother through. One of her older children who’s around the same age and also emotionally abused me got into my face and I threatened to call the cops on them. He backed up but I was so distraught at everything that happened in my life these past couple of years that I reached my breaking point. To add to an even longer story, I’m planning to take the rest of the week off tomorrow to pack early so that crazy btch and her family doesn’t mess with my stuff as they attempted to mess with my mothers. I already gave my cat to a friend to foster until I get settled in my new place because I didn’t want to risk my cats safety. I’m hoping the move goes well but I’m worried about the future now that I’m kind of on my own for the first time, especially since I can no longer count on my family for assistance. What do I need to do?