i was wondering if it is ever an issue for PI to have a student leaving their labs and terminating their contracts? is it more of a big deal for phd students than master's students? or is it not that important for them?
I already terminated my contract. Would it be rude to ask to hand over the material and lab book to supervisor instead of PI? I would say politely in the mail that "given the impact that the situation has had on me, I would feel comfortable having the meeting arranged with immediate supervisor". Is this okay?
I already terminated my contract. Would it be rude to ask to hand over the material and lab book to supervisor instead of PI? I would say politely in the mail that "given the impact that the situation has had on me, I would feel comfortable having the meeting arranged with immediate supervisor". Is this okay?
My PI wanted to escalate a stupid disagreement I had with my colleague to the director instead of handling it in the right way. Also, turns out the colleague I had a problem with was my PI's relative. It is just that they never talk about it and he is insanely biased towards her. I terminated my contract and left the lab because of the unfair treatment and bias. Would this affect me in any way?
now suddenly two people treat me as if im mentally unstable and asking me if im sleepy or tired and to go back home. It feels like a mental asylum experience at this point and it makes me feel extremely paranoid from everyone.
now suddenly two people treat me as if im mentally unstable and asking me if im sleepy or tired and to go back home. It feels like a mental asylum experience at this point and it makes me feel extremely paranoid from everyone.
I don't want to sound pity but basically, I have been working in that place for 6 months now. Another colleague joined recently but she was already working there for an internship before I joined for 3 months. She is a social butterfly, jokes around with people all the time but is extremely double-faced. she would talk shit behind people's back all the time. She complains all the time and is always on the phone talking to her friends and family. She would complain about forgetting to eat and drink.
PI always feels bad for her and constantly remind her. My supervisor pointed out to the boss that I am also the same as her, and that I don't eat or drink. I am normally a very reserved and quiet person. Afterwards, the PI would bring me stuff along with her and attempt to remind me.
This ended up pissing me off so much and I started to think about it in a childish way. That I'd never be actually noticed or taken care of, and also a bit pissed off at the fact that she complains despite having everyone with her, meanwhile I have never had anyome and had to basically depend on myself from such a young age. It is like I don't hate recieving this care but it doesn't feel genuine as he just "group" us together, and care for her much more idk. Am I weird for this?
I don't want to sound pity but basically, I have been working in that place for 6 months now. Another colleague joined recently but she was already working there for an internship before I joined for 3 months. She is a social butterfly, jokes around with people all the time but is extremely double-faced. she would talk shit behind people's back all the time. She complains all the time and is always on the phone talking to her friends and family. She would complain about forgetting to eat and drink.
PI always feels bad for her and constantly remind her. My supervisor pointed out to the boss that I am also the same as her, and that I don't eat or drink. I am normally a very reserved and quiet person. Afterwards, the PI would bring me stuff along with her and attempt to remind me.
This ended up pissing me off so much and I started to think about it in a childish way. That I'd never be actually noticed or taken care of, and also a bit pissed off at the fact that she complains despite having everyone with her, meanwhile I have never had anyome and had to basically depend on myself from such a young age. It is like I don't hate recieving this care but it doesn't feel genuine as he just "group" us together, and care for her much more idk. Am I weird for this?
I don't know whether this was an okay decision to make, but PI comments a lot on me being quiet and I was scared I'd always give weird vibes because of my quietness. I explained to him that I tend to overthink if I said too much or too little, and that I am on antidepressants, and that I don't mean to affect him and apologized for that. He told me that there was no need to apologize and that his behavior doesn't depend on me and that I don't contribute to his stress. I just sometimes overthink as he can be a bit friendly sometimes, smile and say hey whenever he sees me. sometimes he ignores me or look at me weird. It always makes me wonder if I did something wrong or disappointed him in any way. I don't know
I don't know whether this was an okay decision to make, but PI comments a lot on me being quiet and I was scared I'd always give weird vibes because of my quietness. I explained to him that I tend to overthink if I said too much or too little, and that I am on antidepressants, and that I don't mean to affect him and apologized for that. He told me that there was no need to apologize and that his behavior doesn't depend on me and that I don't contribute to his stress. I just sometimes overthink as he can be a bit friendly sometimes, smile and say hey whenever he sees me. sometimes he ignores me or look at me weird. It always makes me wonder if I did something wrong or disappointed him in any way. I don't know
Is it normal to have been told at first that my thesis would be a bit of an independent project, just to be informed a week before it starts that it is part of someone else's PhD project?
Is it normal to have been told at first that my thesis would be a bit of an independent project, just to be informed a week before it starts that it is part of someone else's PhD project?
Is it rude to not accept it despite my PI mentioning it more than once? Issue is I don't trust my PI much because of his extreme bias towards certain students. I would need some time to make up my mind so I would just thank him for offering it or not know how to reply because I haven't decided yet at all.
How to deal with not letting it show or affect the other person when limerence fades way, so you start seeing the person for how they really are and get extremely pissed off about it?
Is it rude to not accept it despite my PI mentioning it more than once? Issue is I don't trust my PI much because of his extreme bias towards certain students. I would need some time to make up my mind so I would just thank him for offering it or not know how to reply because I haven't decided yet at all.
PI treats women different than men, and plays favorites. It always makes me feel like I can't trust him with his feedback as he says he is never harsh on "women". This makes me feel like I am constantly underqualified and that he isn't being as harsh on me as he is with others because of the bias. I don't like his bias towards some students even if it is me included. It puts more pressure on me and make me unable to trust his feedback. Am I making sense?
PI treats women different than men, and plays favorites. It always makes me feel like I can't trust him with his feedback as he says he is never harsh on "women". This makes me feel like I am constantly underqualified and that he isn't being as harsh on me as he is with others because of the bias. I don't like his bias towards some students even if it is me included. It puts more pressure on me and make me unable to trust his feedback. Am I making sense?
I have had a professor whose interactions with him was so pleasant but it's just normal professional interactions. I can't help but fantasize about him being family, even though I never had a healthy family dynamic. Maybe because I feel safe around him or he feels familiar. I wish he would somehow adopt me.
My PI told me that when he criticizes me, I seem to take it very personally because I visibly look sad. When something goes wrong, I usually blame myself or try to explain myself instead of blaming others, and he says I don’t need to be so defensive.
For example, someone once explained a topic to me. Later, my PI asked whether that person had explained a specific part. I said no, but I also said maybe I misunderstood and that I could read about it myself, because I didn’t want the other person to be blamed for not teaching me properly.
There was another time when my PI asked me to explain something and I couldn’t. He said my supervisor must have done a terrible job explaining it to me. I immediately defended my supervisor and said he guides me well and that I probably just didn’t understand properly. My PI then said I was being protective of him and that he likes to joke around. He looked very sad and insecure of making that joke. I feel like he walks on egg shells with jokes around me now..
I think I get defensive because I feel guilty when others are blamed because of me. I also find it harder to understand spoken explanations and usually learn better when things are written down. I want to understand why I react this way and how I can work on it.
My PI told me that when he criticizes me, I seem to take it very personally because I visibly look sad. When something goes wrong, I usually blame myself or try to explain myself instead of blaming others, and he says I don’t need to be so defensive.
For example, someone once explained a topic to me. Later, my PI asked whether that person had explained a specific part. I said no, but I also said maybe I misunderstood and that I could read about it myself, because I didn’t want the other person to be blamed for not teaching me properly.
There was another time when my PI asked me to explain something and I couldn’t. He said my supervisor must have done a terrible job explaining it to me. I immediately defended my supervisor and said he guides me well and that I probably just didn’t understand properly. My PI then said I was being protective of him and that he likes to joke around. He looked very sad and insecure of making that joke. I feel like he walks on egg shells with jokes around me now..
I think I get defensive because I feel guilty when others are blamed because of me. I also find it harder to understand spoken explanations and usually learn better when things are written down. I want to understand why I react this way and how I can work on it.