u/Alternative-Office73

My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years. We moved together a year ago to his home town for work and his parents live nearby.
We go hang out with them at their place every Sunday. They’re great people, amazing parents (married like 40 years) and we all love each other and I feel like I’m apart of the family.

But over the past 2 weeks my boyfriend and his mom started kissing on the lips when they greet each other and before we leave. It’s just a peck but it’s absolutely a new thing. When I first saw it I was caught off guard but brushed it off! They’re a super affectionate family. But the last time we went over there, when they greeted each other they kissed and I accidentally glanced and his mom and I made eye contact and I got super uncomfortable and obviously looked away and started talking to the dog lmao.

Once again I brushed it off. but over the past couple of days I can’t stop thinking about how the rest of that day was kind of weird.

At the dinner table, she sat next to him on the bench him and I always sit on together. So I sat at the end of the table, still next to him but in the past entire year she’s never sat there before. (No big deal obviously!!!!! but it adds to the rest of the story.)

After dinner his brother and dad left the house for something and my bf and I got on the couch and turned something random on. He put a pillow on my lap and laid down and his mom was on the couch next to us talking on the phone for a while.
My bf was half falling asleep, half watching the tv and sometimes talking to me. And eventually his mom got off the phone and goes “when is this over ?” And we were like “oh we just put something random on we’re not really watching it , why what’s up?” And she goes “I’m lonely!!” And my bf starts explaining like he thought she was on the phone , he was falling asleep, we weren’t ignoring her. I guess she brushed it off but then gets up and says she’s gonna go do the laundry.

A few minutes later my boyfriend goes and checks on her and I guess she has an attitude with him or something ? Because he comes back into the livingroom and starts whispering to me “fuck. I need my mom to cut my hair but I feel bad asking her now since I haven’t really spent time with her”.
We hear her go out the door to the back yard and he says we should go out there and spend some time with her. And Im like absolutely!
When we get outside she’s laying flat on her back in the grass so my boyfriend runs over and helps her up. Apparently she tripped over his dad’s stuff and she’s pissed and cussing and starts blaming her husband on leaving his stuff out. Anyways she ends up being fine we’re talking and hanging out like normal. But eventually she goes and puts some ice on her hip. Which make me believe she didn’t fall for attention right ????
I just can’t help but wonder , wtf is going on? Maybe I’m reading too much into everything since the kissing started, but looking back on that day, it feels kinda off.

Anyways back to the kissing thing. For context, she doesn’t kiss her younger son 28M on the lips ( they’re also not as close) and my bf doesn’t kiss his dad on the lips. And it is NOT a cultural thing…
I don’t know if she’s starting to become a little needy of her sons attention or what but he literally designates every Sunday for his parents and also stops by multiple times a week to see them… he prioritizes them more than me a lot of the times if I’m being honest! So I would hope she’s not becoming jealous or something?
I NEVER EVER want to or will ever try to come between a mother and her son!!!

Im just a little confused as to what has caused this sudden kissing on the lips between the two of them… i think if that has always been the case since I met him , I would be different. But this is new.

My bf and I have been dating for over 2 years, live together and plan to get engaged this year. And RJ is going to ruin my life.

BACKSTORY: I want to start off by saying I am in no way shape or form, racist by any means. My RJ stems from my relationships back in highschool many years ago. I’m white and was a minority in my home town. A lot of my upbringing made me very aware of race. Guys dated me as some sort of experiment and wanted to “see how it was with a white girl”. I had been cheated on by bfs with girls who looked nothing like me and made me feel less than and compared myself to them.

My boyfriend and I are both Caucasian. I know of 3 girls my bf was with back to back before me and they are all beautiful asain women. Similar facial features, tan skin, long dark hair. Not only that, so many of his friends and even family members are also dating asain women. This , along with my bfs previous “type” was something that I realized AFTER we were already super deep into a very serious relationship. After my dating experiences in highschool, I ALWAYS said “I will never date a man that I’m not their type” IT WAS LITERALLY A THING OF MINE. I asked my boyfriend on one of our first dates what kind of girls does he go for and he said he “doesnt have a type and dated all kinds of women” and I didn’t question it. Until I noticed a pattern.
So my RJ wasn’t sparked up only by this realization but also by many other things.
His own lifelong bestfriend who is married to an Asian women, said to me jokingly one day “you know -bfs name- liked them asain girls hahahah” this was absolutely irrelevant to our conversation… he’s the constantly joking around type of guy, but I truly resent him for this comment because it practically solidified what I had been assuming for so long.
Also my bfs most recent ex, is super close with his lifelong Bestfriend’s wife and all of her friends that are all asain too. And said wife, doesn’t put any effort in being friends with me. Probably some loyalty towards my bfs ex. I feel very excluded.
I chose violence one random day when he was showing me a video on his IG feed and I see some Asian girl at the top of the stories bubble so I clicked it, went to her profile and they had 30 mutuals. All asain influencer girls. I’m scrolling through the list and I said “do you even know any of these girls” he said no and accused me of looking for a fight.
During one argument he said “okay maybe it was a phase!” But like, was it a fetish too? That thought alone makes me super turned off by him.
He also absolutely loves Asia and the culture. We even went to Asia together this year lol!!
My RJ convinces me that, those women are what he’s truly attracted to. That he prefers those women sexually. And it convinces me that when we see a beautiful asain women in public, he finds her attractive. And if we were to ever separate I can just see him so clearly getting with another women of that race. These feelings are so overwhelming that I start to pull away from him. I become cold and resent him.
Anyways, this is such a minuscule part of our relationship. It’s barely apart of it! Because it’s all in my head and I’m the one who deals with it, alone! Sometimes I go weeks without even thinking about it then something triggers it and I spiral. I don’t want to live this way!!
this man truly adores me, he tells me he’s never been attracted to anyone this much in his life. He affirms me and shows me love that I’ve never experienced before. Our relationship is truly so beautiful and loving but I’m going to fucking destroy it if I don’t get over this. Help.

Hi everyone!
I’m new to UGC (bear with me). Ive gotten a couple of gigs on Collabstr. The typical UGC style ad videos. Receive product, film and submit deliverables to brand.

Ive recently branched off onto SideShift since that’s a popular platform that many have seen success on. Although, I’m a little confused and starting to feel quite discouraged. All of the gigs on SideShift that I’ve seen so far are what I’ve now learned is “performance based ads”. Where you’re required to create a new TikTok/IG, warm it up, post once daily a quick low effort , low quality video where you either subtlety mention brands you’re advertising for, or not at all until someone comments and asks questions. I’m seeing most of these jobs have a sort of retainer plus CPV. Or simply CPV. With the whole point of going viral.
I’m not bashing anyone who creates this kind of content whatsoever, I just don’t think it’s the type of content I want to create. ( I have a bad taste in my mouth bc a brand reached out to me and wanted me to create new profiles with a fake name and be disingenuous in videos and I don’t want to start my journey off that way)

Is this the way people see real success in UGC? You always hear about “getting retainer deals are the best way to make money”. Were those people talking about these kind of jobs? From my personal experience, UGC has been advertised as: you don’t post the content on your own page, brands do. And that a brand sends you their product, you film/edit and send deliverables. And that is the style of UGC that I’ve really enjoyed making so far.

Maybe someone can educate me a little on this or share their experience?
Or what platforms focus ONLY on traditional style ads?