Divorcing with 3 under 3… is it possible? Trapped!
I don’t know what to do. I feel trapped. I’ve been with my spouse 13 years and it always been toxic. But the negativity and horrific treatment against me is magnified when I have littles to look out for. I have. 3 year old a two year old and a baby on the way. I know from a psychological perspective it is easier on children to recover from a divorce at this age. There will be affects of course but their ability for recognizing time development and processing long term memories is not fully developed. Now would be better than 3/4 years from now. However with baby on the way and the fact I am in the middle of grad school it seems like an impossible feat to take care of all these littles by myself. We had it all mapped out how to support each other. It’s my suspicion that my he would just do weekends, that is also easier for littles because it allows them to maintain a more stable routine than 50/50. I do have family support if I need it, to some extent. I don’t think k my parents would be willing to watch the newborn. Also how devastating to be with a newborn all alone or right after a trauma of this magnitude. I’ve been putting up with this behavior for this long, I will probably just continue he to because getting out is two hard. But it breaks my heart that my daughter will think this is the norm. Hearing fighting to this extent has traumatic effects at on children’s brains. I am too smart and stable to stay but the logistics for leaving seem unrealistic.