u/Alternative_Bass1056

So we’ve been together about a month and a half now and we got close really fast. I’m 20f, he’s 21m. We’ve both been under a lot of pressure, I’m moving out of my parents and he’s working 50-60, on top of schooling. Last night during intimacy something went wrong. I ended up feeling bad and pulled away, he kept trying to pull me into him and I kept pushing him off. I eventually came around We ended up taking a shower together, he seemed off so I asked if he was okay. He said he was fine just very stressed, and I told him I was worried about him. I get out of the shower first bc I’m feeling sick and he follows shortly. I’m going on vacation tmr so I asked “hey when do you want to hangout again?” He proceeded to tell me he’s working a bunch of doubles the next couple of weeks so he doesn’t know. I got kinda upset about it,

Saying “so I won’t get to see you for like 2-3 weeks?” And he said he didn’t know it all depended on his schedule. He walks me to my car were quiet the entire time, he tells me he’s tired and likely gonna go to sleep when he gets back inside. I bring up the whole schedule things again and then he seemed to be upset. So we kiss say love you and then he goes back inside. I get home about 10 minutes later I text him, tell him love you goodnight. No response. I wake up at 3 am to take my parents to the airport, and read a txt msg saying:

“I wanna be honest about earlier when you asked if everything was ok... Tbh I've been in my head alot lately just with stress from job,school, bills etc, and I wanted you to know its not anything you did or caused but I dont rlly feel I'm in the right mindspace emotionally and I think I wanna slow down a little so that I can figure myself out and get my emotions and mind under control... I'm srry I wasn't completely honest about it I just didnt know how to word it at the time”

I don’t know what this means exactly and i genuinely do love him I’m just confused about this. It wasn’t exactly great timing because he sent it after I went to sleep, knowing I was gonna be up at 3 and that we wouldn’t be able to talk about anything. I had to call out of work because I haven’t slept since reading this, and I feel like I’m going to be sick.

Edit: I want to be clear, he’s the one who said “I love you” first. He did a bunch of stuff for my birthday, and then he even took me to get my IUD placed yesterday. He’s a good guy, I’m just not exactly sure what’s going on.

TLDR: something went wrong during intimacy, I pull away. Bf tells me he’s stressed and I ended up adding to the stress. Bf txt me after I’m asleep telling me he’s stressed and wants to slow down. But idk what that means. Now I feel sick.

So we’ve been together about a month and a half now and we got close really fast. I’m 20f, he’s 21m. We’ve both been under a lot of pressure, I’m moving out of my parents and he’s working 50-60, on top of schooling. Last night during intimacy something went wrong. I ended up feeling bad and pulled away, he kept trying to pull me into him and I kept pushing him off. I eventually came around We ended up taking a shower together, he seemed off so I asked if he was okay. He said he was fine just very stressed, and I told him I was worried about him. I get out of the shower first bc I’m feeling sick and he follows shortly. I’m going on vacation tmr so I asked “hey when do you want to hangout again?” He proceeded to tell me he’s working a bunch of doubles the next couple of weeks so he doesn’t know. I got kinda upset about it,

Saying “so I won’t get to see you for like 2-3 weeks?” And he said he didn’t know it all depended on his schedule. He walks me to my car were quiet the entire time, he tells me he’s tired and likely gonna go to sleep when he gets back inside. I bring up the whole schedule things again and then he seemed to be upset. So we kiss say love you and then he goes back inside. I get home about 10 minutes later I text him, tell him love you goodnight. No response. I wake up at 3 am to take my parents to the airport, and read a txt msg saying:

“I wanna be honest about earlier when you asked if everything was ok... Tbh I've been in my head alot lately just with stress from job,school, bills etc, and I wanted you to know its not anything you did or caused but I dont rlly feel I'm in the right mindspace emotionally and I think I wanna slow down a little so that I can figure myself out and get my emotions and mind under control... I'm srry I wasn't completely honest about it I just didnt know how to word it at the time”

I don’t know what this means exactly and i genuinely do love him I’m just confused about this. It wasn’t exactly great timing because he sent it after I went to sleep, knowing I was gonna be up at 3 and that we wouldn’t be able to talk about anything. I had to call out of work because I haven’t slept since reading this, and I feel like I’m going to be sick.

TLDR: something went wrong during intimacy, I pull away. Bf tells me he’s stressed and I ended up adding to the stress. Bf txt me after I’m asleep telling me he’s stressed and wants to slow down. But idk what that means. Now I feel sick.

Is the name change going to give us more help? No. Is the name change going to make scientists research more? Likely not. Did they spend 10 years trying to change the name instead of working to find the cause, and what we can do to fix it? Yes, yes they did.

I will admit that it does give a slightly better answer to the general population as to what PMOS/PCOS is, however we (the women with it) been told this for years. “It’s a metabolic condition.” “It’s an endocrine condition.” Mhm. Okay.

Yet we still don’t have good treatment for it. I’m sorry to be so cynical about this, but unless there is an allocation of money working towards REAL TREATMENT, and I’m not just talking about metformin and birth control. I’m talking like on the label of my prescription it says “use: PCOS/PMOS” then I really do not care. 8.8% of all NIH funding goes towards women’s healthcare, and of that 8.8% (5 billion, annually) less than .64% (31.8 million, annually) goes towards the research of PCOS. YET, somehow the relative cost for “treatment” of PCOS, is 8 BILLION in America alone. So I’m sorry that I don’t care, actually I’m not sorry. Because at the end of the day we’re still underfunded, we still don’t have a treatment, and they spent tens of millions of dollars figuring out a one letter change.

Thank you.

Okay, so bf and I had sex yesterday the 9th. We didn’t use a condom, but I was on my period, he never came, and I took a plan b after just to be extra cautious. I’m supposed to get my IUD on the 19th, if I don’t get it that day then I have to wait until after summer bc I start working full time the next week. So it’s very important I get it inserted. Will they still do it?

Edit: I also want to note I have PCOS