u/Amazing-Bowler-1717

Why do I feel the sting so bad? I've had long term relationships ending not hurt as much as this even though it was only 1 date. How do I get this pit in the stomach feeling to go away?

I went on a textbook first date with a girl who I find to be a perfect 10 in all areas. I'm not new to dating, I get lots of dates and do well for myself. Even if someone physically I find super attractive, I'll find out their personality is eh, etc. Only twice in my life have I been just absolutely floored by a women's looks AND personality.

Matched on hinge with a girl who checked all my boxes, and looks wise blew me away. She even reached out to me first, super enthusiastic, making a date was easy and smooth. Day of the date arrives, and she was even more beautiful in person. Literally everyone at the restaurant was checking her out haha. I've had some pretty cute and good looking dates but nothing like this.

The convo flowed great, lots of banter and joking and the vibe was spot on. Our values were perfectly aligned, her career was really attractive to. We then went to a game of mini golf where we were both very playful and she was all over me. Touching me, holding my arm, teasing each other. Then we went for ice cream after. It was like 3 dates in 1. End of the date, she basically throws herself at me and we made out. I ended the date with "text me later!" which she agreed to.

I never got a home safe text or whatnot, but I also know sometimes women test early in dating to make sure a dude won't spaz out if they don't hear back right away. The date was Sunday. I decided to give her a few days to see if she would reach out, and if not I'd reach out today (tuesday) later in the evening to follow up and make another date.

I checked hinge this morning and she unmatched me. Possible she just deleted the app but I doubt it at this point. I was going to wait till the evening to reach out, but panicked a bit, and reached out with a simple follow up about how I had a great time and would love to see her again. She typically responded within 10-30 minutes. Its been hours at this point so the writing is on the wall.

I know it could be an infinite number of reasons. Maybe there's another guy. Maybe she wasn't feeling it but decided to just have fun with it. Maybe me waiting 2 days pissed her off. Who knows. I guess it's good knowing I have the ability to even initially attract a women like her, but I really am confused why I feel so crushed. It was just 1 date. I've had long term relationships for years fall apart not sting this bad. I'm just rambling at this point so I'll stop. The dating world is confusing.

I was coming up with a new character for a skyrim playthrough. Imperial or Breton paladin. Learning about the Breton knight orders made me feel a wandering paladin/crusader type would be a fun way to switch things up.

How would a Breton paladin react to the skyrim civil war if he had to pick a side? High rock is still part of the empire and benefits from Skyrim being in the empire, and paladins in general value duty, law & order, so I was thinking Empire. Though, a paladin would be VERY serious about the nine divines, and the outlaw of talos and the empire accepting the terms might push him to being sympathetic with the stormcloaks and seeing the Empire as now heretical.

Where do you think this type of character would land on the civil war?

Hey all. My long term goal is to be a snow bird half the year, but financially owning 2 properties isn't in the cards. I'm 33 years old. Income pre tax is 106,200. With a 5-8% bonus annually. After all my deductions post tax, I bring in 6k a month.

My current housing is $1900 mortgage, including insurance & hoa. I was looking into airbnb options for 1-3 months up north during the hot months here in south Carolina, or even possibly during the winter as I'm a weirdo who actually enjoys snow. I'm in a golden handcuffs scenario where I got a low interest rate during covid and my property value went up a lot. I'm originally from the north, super nostalgic, but I do really enjoy the town i live in now. Before I make any rash decisions of moving up north, I want to try doing the airbnb thing with long term rentals to see if I'm looking at things with rose-tinted glasses.

The airbnb's up north in the areas I'm looking at go for approx 1800-2800 a month, assuming I book in advanced. Shorter notice I'd assume the price will go up. After all my bills I do have about that amount left over that goes into savings. I can dip into savings for this but I'd rather not.

I would be paying a property management company approximately 200 a month to do bi-weekly checks on the house while I was up north. I'm trying to think of any other hidden costs or things I'm not thinking of when away that might cost $. Mathematically it's looking like I could do this reasonably without needing to dip into savings. I work remotely so work isn't affected. I know I'd need to clear out the fridge before I go so I'd need to time that properly as well and account for restocking the house with food when I get back. I do have a dog that is coming with me but those costs I assume would be the same.

Any tips/advice for those of you snow birds?