u/Ambitionate

Hey everybody. As the title suggests, I’m looking again for a marriage of convenience otherwise known as misyar. My most recent partner and I ended things almost after a year and a half of being together (she got her visa for the UK and moved along with her son). It was a hidden nikkah. We both wanted to keep this relationship concealed from our families. Those of you who understand what this is, good for you. Those who dont, please refrain from calling this haram and other derogatory names. I’m not here to discuss what this is or is not. Please get your information on this elsewhere. I’m here for any of the sisters who are somewhat used to a certain routine and enjoy their own dominion and time but would still like to be in a marriage with less than usual access to their husband than what is the norm.

I’m working in Islamabad but travel back and forth to Lahore (my parents are there). So preferably I would hope to find someone here again. I hold a foreign passport and travel 4/5 times a year for 2-3 weeks at a time.

5'10, 88 kg
Islamabad but looking for someone in Lahore
Own in America but rented in Islamabad .
Masters, structural engineering
Full-time bridge engineer (USA)
Married
Sunni, Hanafi, very practicing
Gym, travel, reading, history, nature, cars/bikes
I have an aging mum and dad

What I’m Looking For

Preferably someone based in Lahore and doing something meaningful with her life.

I’m not looking for someone who would be highly dependent on me, at least not in the beginning. A woman building a career, running a business, or deeply invested in her studies or research would honestly make a lot of sense to me.

I like the idea of companionship, marriage, and building something real together, but I also value space. Someone who understands that life can already be full, demanding, and noisy, and who wants the comfort of a marriage without turning it into a constant emotional tug-of-war.

Deal Breakers

I do not have a long list.

For me, loyalty and respect matter more than anything else. I would not be comfortable with someone who keeps a lot of close friendships with the opposite gender. It is not about insecurity. It is simply about the kind of boundaries and mutual respect I believe a marriage should have.

Preferred Family Setup

I prefer apartment living over a house.

My practical approach would be to get an apartment near wherever she is currently based, so life feels easier and more workable rather than unnecessarily complicated.

Children

Not initially.

If things make sense with time, and if she is open to eventually moving to where I actually live, then it is definitely something that can be discussed later.

Timeframe for Marriage

Sooner rather than later. If it feels right, tomorrow.

Salaam everybody. As the title suggests, I’m looking again for a marriage of convenience otherwise known as misyar. My most recent partner and I ended things almost after a year and a half of being together (she got her visa for the UK and moved along with her son). It was a hidden nikkah. We both wanted to keep this relationship concealed from our families. Those of you who understand what this is, good for you. Those who dont, please refrain from calling this haram and other derogatory names. I’m not here to discuss what this is or is not. Please get your information on this elsewhere. I’m here for any of the sisters who are somewhat used to a certain routine and enjoy their own dominion and time but would still like to be in a marriage with less than usual access to their husband than what is the norm.

I’m working in Islamabad but travel back and forth to Lahore (my parents are there). So preferably I would hope to find someone here again. I hold a foreign passport and travel 4/5 times a year for 2-3 weeks at a time.

5'10, 88 kg
Islamabad but looking for someone in Lahore
Own in America but rented in Islamabad .
Masters, structural engineering
Full-time bridge engineer (USA)
Married
Sunni, Hanafi, very practicing
Gym, travel, reading, history, nature, cars/bikes
I have an aging mum and dad

What I’m Looking For

Preferably someone based in Lahore and doing something meaningful with her life.

I’m not looking for someone who would be highly dependent on me, at least not in the beginning. A woman building a career, running a business, or deeply invested in her studies or research would honestly make a lot of sense to me.

I like the idea of companionship, marriage, and building something real together, but I also value space. Someone who understands that life can already be full, demanding, and noisy, and who wants the comfort of a marriage without turning it into a constant emotional tug-of-war.

Deal Breakers

I do not have a long list.

For me, loyalty and respect matter more than anything else. I would not be comfortable with someone who keeps a lot of close friendships with the opposite gender. It is not about insecurity. It is simply about the kind of boundaries and mutual respect I believe a marriage should have.

Preferred Family Setup

I prefer apartment living over a house.

My practical approach would be to get an apartment near wherever she is currently based, so life feels easier and more workable rather than unnecessarily complicated.

Children

Not initially.

If things make sense with time, and if she is open to eventually moving to where I actually live, then it is definitely something that can be discussed later.

Timeframe for Marriage

Sooner rather than later. If it feels right, tomorrow.