Looking for Understanding, Support & Perhaps the Right Person
I wanted to share something personal here, hoping to find some support, understanding, and perhaps even someone who is willing to share this journey with me.
I’m 33 years old, an accountant, Palestinian Arab and Muslim, and I currently live in Israel. I’m also gay, and I’ve been in a loving relationship with my European boyfriend, who lives abroad, for the past seven years. We love each other deeply, but when it comes to having children, we have very different visions for the future.
He would prefer to have children through surrogacy, while I’ve always imagined becoming a father through a lavender marriage/co-parenting arrangement with a woman who genuinely understands and is comfortable with the idea that the relationship would be platonic. My hope is to build a respectful co-parenting relationship where we can both have our own partners and lives, while creating a loving and stable environment for our children.
Lately, I’ve been feeling quite sad and discouraged because I’ve encountered a lot of judgment around my situation:
I’m judged for living in Israel, even though I don’t have another citizenship or simply the option to relocate whenever I want.
I’m judged for being gay.
I’m judged for wanting to become a parent through a non-traditional family arrangement.
I’ve encountered people who see the situation financially and ask for extremely unrealistic amounts of money, sometimes even €1 million, rather than genuinely looking for a family arrangement.
I’ve also met people in similar situations who are primarily looking for a way to leave their home country or get married temporarily, rather than genuinely wanting to build a long-term co-parenting relationship.
All of this has made me lose hope at times. I genuinely want to become a father, but I also want to remain honest about who I am and maintain a life where everyone involved is respected and free to have their own relationships.
I’m not looking for someone to judge me or tell me that my idea is wrong. I’m simply hoping to meet kind, open-minded and emotionally mature people who understand that families can look different and that what matters most is creating a loving, stable and respectful environment for the children.
If anyone has gone through something similar, knows someone who has, or simply wants to share some support or advice, I would really appreciate hearing from you.
And perhaps, somewhere along the way, I might even meet the right person who wants to share this journey with me. ❤️

She is divorced with 2 kids back in India. She's working in the UAE and is very beautiful. She's looking to move to the UK for career opportunities and for her kid's future. She doesn't want to get married again or have more kids. Not after your money as she has her own, just that because of age and stricter visa norms, this is the go to plan.

She's highly educated and plans to keep working, excellent cook as well.

If any Gay Man with or without kids in the UK is looking for marriage of convenience, please comment I'll DM you.

25F doctor looking for an educated, professional Muslim male aged 25-29, at least outwardly practicing Islam and discreet about his sexuality.

I'm South Asian but open to all ethnicities. Looking for British citizens only, flexible about location/potentially relocation in the UK.

I'm looking for a MOC due to family pressure to get married, primarily. But I would also love to have children and raise a loving family with someone who also wants kids, inshaAllah. It would be ideal to find a good/best friend in an MOC.

I was raised Muslim and am practicing in some aspects but struggle with others. I'm looking for a Muslim partner, someone who respects Islam but understands/maybe relates to struggling with faith sometimes.

I would describe myself as an easygoing and gentle person, can be reserved but have an active social life. I enjoy travelling and exploring nature through scenic walks/hikes. I like to read when I get the time, mostly lit fic.

If this profile is a match for you please reach out. :)

Looking for M around 18-25 to make it appear as I am in a straight relationship
Someone in Qld area somewhat close to Brisbane

I’m a 24F Indian Muslim looking for someone who genuinely wants to build a meaningful marriage and family together.
Deen is extremely important to me, and I’m looking for someone whose values align with mine. I want us to grow in our religion together and build a life based on faith, love, respect, kindness and companionship.
I’d really like a marriage where we can be best friends, support each other, enjoy life together and eventually build a family with mutual understanding and respect.
I’m specifically looking for someone who is open to a marriage without physical intercourse, while still wanting all the other meaningful aspects of a marriage and companionship. This is not a lavender marriage or a marriage of convenience. I’m looking for a genuine, loving and committed marriage, just with this particular aspect being different.
If this resonates with you, I’d be happy to connect.

Hello everyone🦋

, I'm a 23-year-old Iraqi woman living in Baghdad. I'm looking for an Iraqi or Arab man, gay or asexual, for a Lavender marriage. He must be friendly, kind, and know exactly what he wants. I value discretion highly, so whether you're looking for a long-term or temporary relationship, message me on Instagram @lr_4dy

Let's talk.

I am a 26-year-old Asian lesbian woman, non-smoker, non-drinker, career-driven, looking for a lavender marriage with a gay man. Looking for someone who is serious and living in Boston so we could meet in person.

I’m a 26F of a (culturally) Catholic background looking for a lavender marriage, open to any other Christian denomination or also open to anyone non-religious. I am mixed (black/white). I do have a preference for Latin Americans, East/Southeast Asians, and European-descend men. Non-straight men only.

I am a Muslim girl from the Caucasus, a lesbian, looking for a lavender marriage with a gay man, due to the complete lack of freedom, only marriage will help me somehow manage my own life; fleeing my homeland or something else could ruin me and possibly lead to my own death. I don’t want to lose my family and myself; I need a guy who also needs a marriage.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Assalamualaikom 👋🏻

Here is some info about me, below 👇🏻

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بِسْمِ اللَّهِ

إليك بعض الأسئلة والأجوبة عني:

الجنسية: عراقي

العمر: 38 سنة

الطول: ١٧٠ سم

الوزن: ٧٥ كغ (جسم رياضي)

لون البشرة: أبيض / بيج فاتح

الوضع الوظيفي: موظف دائم

درجة التدين: متدين وملتزم، الحمد لله

مدخن: أبداً

الحالة الاجتماعية: مطلق منذ 7 سنوات

المؤهل العلمي: مهندس كهرباء

الأصل: كردي من العراق

اللغات: العربية، الكردية، النرويجية، والإنجليزية بطلاقة

وصف نفسي:

رجل بسيط. أعمل وأتدرب في أوقات الفراغ. أساعد وأُعلّم الأطفال وغيرهم اللغة العربية والقرآن الكريم في المسجد المحلي. الأئمة والناس يعرفونني هنا، ويمكنهم بسهولة التحقق من سمعتي، الحمد لله.

وصف الممارسة الدينية:

الحمد لله، أسعى لتطوير نفسي في جميع النواحي. أتعلم ديني من خلال الفقه وحفظ القرآن والتفسير، حتى أتمكن من قيادة عائلتي وفقاً لقول الله تعالى: "قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا".

وهذا مهم بشكل خاص في الغرب حيث تنتشر المعاصي بسهولة. لذا يجب على الإنسان أن يبدأ بنفسه، ويسعى إلى تحقيق التقوى، وتقوية الإيمان لتقليل الحرام.

مثال على ذلك: عندما أذهب إلى النادي الرياضي، أحرص على التمرين في أوقات لا يوجد فيها الكثير من الناس (وخاصة النساء) لتفادي الفتنة قدر الإمكان.

طلب العلم:

نعم، إلى حد ما. أحضر دروس فقه، وأراجع القرآن مع أصدقاء ومع الإمام المحلي. الحمد لله

الصلاة في المسجد:

أبذل جهدي، والحمد لله

كم تحفظ من القرآن؟

٦ إلى ٧ أجزاء، الحمد لله

العلاقة مع العائلة:

جيدة

شروطي للطرف الآخر:

يرجى أن تكول لها علاقة مع القران و الدين.

أن تكون تخاف الله، وتعرف قيمة الزواج، وتتحلى بالأخلاق الحسنة.

ليس لدي شروط كثيرة، ولكن أؤمن بأن التواصل هو الأساس. إذا كان هناك تفاهم بين الزوجين، فسوف ينجح الزواج بإذن الله، والتوفيق والبركة من عند الله وحده.

العمر المناسب: من ٢٠ إلى الثلاثينات سنة، ولكن أنا منفتح على أعمار أخرى أيضاً

الحالة الاجتماعية: عزباء أو مطلقة، ويفضل بدون أطفال. وإذا كانت لديها أطفال، فيُفضل أن تكون هناك ترتيبات واضحة مع والد الطفل.

الوزن: مناسب للطول

المنطقة: أي مكان

المستوى التعليمي: لا يهم

Nationality: Iraqi

Age: 38 years old

Height: 170 cm

Weight: 75 kg (athletic build)

Skin Tone: White/light beige

Employment Status: Permanent employee

Level of Religiosity: Practicing and committed Muslim, Alhamdulillah

Smoker: Never

Marital Status: Divorced 7 years ago

Education: Electrical Engineer

Ethnicity: Kurdish from Iraq

Languages: Arabic, Kurdish, Norwegian, and English fluently

About Myself:

A simple man. I work and exercise in my free time. I teach Arabic language and the Quran to children and others at the local mosque. The local Imams and community know me well and can easily verify my reputation, Alhamdulillah.

About My Religious Practice:

Alhamdulillah, I strive to develop myself in all aspects. I learn my religion through Islamic jurisprudence, memorizing the Quran, and tafsir (interpretation) so I can lead my family according to Allah's command: "Protect yourselves and your families from the Fire." This is especially important in the West where sins spread easily. Therefore, one must start with oneself, seek piety, and strengthen faith to minimize haram. For example, when I go to the gym, I make sure to exercise at times when there aren't many people (especially women) to avoid temptation as much as possible.

Seeking Knowledge:

Yes, to some extent. I attend Islamic jurisprudence classes and review the Quran with friends and the local Imam. Alhamdulillah.

Praying at the Mosque:

I do my best, Alhamdulillah.

How Much of the Quran Do You Memorize?

6 to 7 Juz (parts), Alhamdulillah.

Relationship with Family:

Good

My Requirements for a Partner:

Please have a connection with the Quran and religion.

Fear God, understand the value of marriage, and have good character.

I don't have many conditions, but I believe communication is fundamental. If there is understanding between spouses, marriage will succeed by Allah's will. Success and blessings come from Allah alone.

Suitable Age: 20s to 30s, but I'm open to other ages as well

Marital Status: Single or divorced, preferably without children. If she has children, clear arrangements with the father would be preferred.

Weight: Proportionate to height

Location: Anywhere

Education Level: Doesn't matter

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Location Note: While I'm open to meeting someone from anywhere, I'm seriously considering looking for a partner in the Middle East as well, as finding a compatible match in Europe has proven challenging. I'm equally open to both regions.

A Personal Note: If this post resonates with you or if you know someone who might be a good match, I would be genuinely grateful. Additionally, if you're interested in helping me find a suitable partner within your circle, community, or social network, I would be happy to offer compensation for your service. My reputation in the community is, Alhamdulillah, well-established and can be verified easily through the local mosque and community members.

Wassalamo alaikom 👋🏻

والسلام عليكم

I'm leaving this sub , it's so bad now , the main reason why it's been created no longer exists bye

I am 30 M Pakistani born and raised in north west England looking for a marriage of convenience. Someone from England

I do not act on the feelings and will never intend to. I am not a perfect Muslim but my religious values and religion comes first always Alhamdulillah.

I do try and pray although I’m not 5x I do try my best! I keep all my fasts, give zakat, charity I just really try my best to be a good Muslim.

I am not looking for a cover up situation or anything like that.

I would like to be married in every sense of the word like best friends who can grow old and support each other and care for each other and we can even try to have children by natural means and even work to better our selves and control our desires Insha Allah.(children are not mandatory just something I’d be open to if you are)

Ideally would like someone younger than me under 5ft 6 and observes hijab. Someone who practices and doesn’t act on the desire.

I will have my own house and am willing to support the both of us if you do not wish to work.

Please feel free to ask any more questions as I was not to sure what to put in here.

26F, looking for LM, DM if interested

Hi everyone,

I’m looking to connect with someone who may be interested in a lavender marriage—a mutually beneficial, platonic marriage arrangement built on honesty, respect, and clear communication.

A few preferences upfront:

•	\*\*Jordanian or Palestinian only.\*\*

•	Age 30 or older.

•	Must be living outside Jordan, as I don’t plan on staying in Jordan long-term.

I’m looking for someone who is mature, kind, and values mutual understanding. Ideally, we’d build a genuine friendship and partnership while supporting each other in navigating family, cultural, or social expectations, with the freedom for both of us to live authentically.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to send me a message with a little about yourself, including your age, where you live, and what you’re looking for.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

I’m a chartered accountant I work full time in city of London and I have a little toddler I’d love if I could have a marriage so my son has a good role model and having a best friend to speak to and chill with.

I am Muslim and I am practising, so it’d be nice to have someone who is practising and wants the same and who is also a professional like myself.

We can talk and see where this goes, I just want a bestie for me and my son and who can lead us islamically, has a good heart and has pure intentions.

Not sure if this is the best place to post this, but giving it a go😊.

Ps I’ve had messages from non Muslims just to make it clear I just want a British muslim male - culturally the same and the same religion to raise my little bubba up to be a good Muslim. But thank you for the response from the non Muslim people, I wish you all the best in your search❤️.

I'm London born and raised. British Bangladeshi, I am strictly agnostic Exmuslim but this is private from my parents.

I would like to explore a platonic relationship to lead to a lavender marriage with a bisexual or gay man who is an Agnostic or Atheist from a Muslim background.

Not looking for anyone who is straight or Muslim.

Seeking a respectful long-term Lavender Marriage with a like minded woman to satisfy traditional cultural family expectations while maintaining mutual independence complete personal privacy and full freedom behind closed doors I am a 29 year old ace sexual open minded Muslim male who values trust discretion and mutual support above all else and I am completely open to connecting with people of any race background or nationality please feel free to reach out via direct message for a confidential conversation if this arrangement aligns with your life goals.

I’m looking for something a little unconventional: a genuine life partnership built around friendship, companionship, affection and mutual support, without expecting sexual exclusivity from each other.

I’d love to eventually settle down, build a home together, travel, laugh, annoy each other, have someone to come home to and generally do life as a team while both being free to have our own sexual lives without judgement.

I’m originally from Tanzania so potential bonus trips to paradise once a year 😂 I’m Christian and I’d ideally like someone who respects that even if their own beliefs are different.

I’m looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, honest and genuinely interested in building a stable partnership not just someone looking for a convenient arrangement.

Happy to chat first and see whether our personalities and ideas of partnership actually match.