I'm a middle eastern woman looking for a male who wants a lavender marriage for the public image. I'm straight and I'm not looking for any type of sexual relationship. They need to be Muslim on paper (sunnah Muslim)
Peace be upon you.
I am writing this message with great respect and sincerity. This is not an easy step, but it is one I have deeply considered.
I am 31 years old, a practicing Muslim, living in France (Paris region), and I am going through an inner struggle related to my sexual orientation. Despite this, my faith is important to me, and I wish to uphold it as much as possible, without lies or injustice towards anyone.
I am looking to connect with a Muslim woman living in France (ideally in the Paris region) who might be in a similar situation and would like to consider a marriage based on mutual respect, discretion, kindness, and a clear agreement from the outset.
The goal is neither to deceive nor to manipulate, but to protect each other, preserve our families, and move forward in life in a dignified, honest way, in accordance with our personal values.May Allah make it easy for us and guide us towards what is best for us.
Hello everyone. Australian citizen but not raised in Australia. Looking for a Muslim ish man for a marriage of convenience or lavender marriage.
My stats:
Engineering degree
Am from what is considered a traditional "very good" background.
Intending to do research
Radical feminist (should explain enough)
Bisexual and cultural muslim
Looking for:
Radical feminist (in belief and actions)
Cultural muslim
A good friend
Being Bengali is a bonus
Age range: 2000 to 2006 (Birth years)
Getting married in 2029
Hit me with a DM if you're keen to talk!
i’m a 27 year old muslim female looking for a lavender marriage. i’m hoping to find someone who’s honest, respectful and easy to communicate with. we can both do our own thing and live our own lives, but still have each other’s backs and build a friendship based on trust, respect and understanding. i’m also looking for someone who is financially stable and willing to provide financial support as part of the arrangement, with clear expectations and open communication from both sides. just looking for something that works for both of us with no pressure or pretending
Hi, a bit about me. London born and raised. British Bangladeshi, I am strictly agnostic Exmuslim but this is private from Muslim family.
I would like to explore a platonic relationship to lead to a lavender marriage with a bisexual or gay man who is an Agnostic or Atheist from a Muslim background.
Not looking for anyone who is straight or Muslim.
Ok so this is my first post and I guess my last option for living a healthy life without intense family pressure and manipulation.
I'm 30, 5.6", Indian, Gay-Ace, Atheist (Hindu origin), virgin and infertile. My family doesn't know about infertility and forcing too much to arrange marriage and give them grandchildren.
I look athletic, above average looks if it matters to show your family. I worked my whole life to manage family business and am now working on my skills to get into the analyst field.
I tried living in other states within India but still faced the family pressure, emotional manipulation and it's affecting my mental health. I don't want to get married here because my family can easily travel and live with me to continue the pressure and manipulation.
I'm looking for someone who identifies as a woman and is looking for a marriage for convenience, friends, and support in life. Just be friends or housemates, and live life with full freedom.
I'm looking for someone from the US, UK, Canada and we can talk about mutual needs, logistics and other details in private.
I wouldn't have thought of this option if my family understood me and not put pressure, emotionally manipulate and make me feel guilty. Once I'm out of here they won't be able to reach me here but only talk on the phone.
As I'm Indian so you will have to sign the sponsorship but don't worry about the finances and cost of it. After marriage either we will split the expenses or I'll take care of the big expenses like rent and utilities (we can talk about this). I'll be your best friend at home with all support.
I'm a very simple person who minds own business and always help others whenever I can.
Trying this out because my idea of marriage has become a bit unconventional.
I’m a straight woman from the Philippines, currently working in Qatar. I like the idea of marriage as companionship rather than romance, while still valuing individuality and personal space. I’m also looking for an environment where I can comfortably practice my religion. I generally dress modestly and wear hijab at times, I don’t mind veiling if required or preferred within that context.
I’d like to continue my law degree, and I find that being unmarried long-term adds a certain pressure I’d prefer to navigate differently.
I’m 165cm, 50kg, quiet, reserved, emotionally steady, subjectively attractive and independent-minded. I prefer calm communication and mutual respect. Looking for someone around my age or younger who is intentional about the arrangement.
I am 39M in Kenya. Running a business within East and Central Africa and stable mentally and relatively financially. I live alone and I have pets and friends.
I have nothing against relationships and marriage and I am intentionally single. Besides, if I were in a relationship it would be a gay one.
However, I am at a point where my family relationships and engagements are becoming difficult and complicated to be in. I am not ready for that why are you not married conversation and especially engaging my family on that.
I have thought about this and after so much soul searching I am now changing my mind and opening up to an apart-together Lavender marriage. I am accommodating to the terms of engagement and other than this I am not foreseeing being in any romantic relationship.
I am straight girl age 28 looking for marriage
Hello everyone,
I’m hoping to connect with someone who understands the unique circumstances many of us face.
I’m a 27-year-old Emirati woman looking for a respectful, mutually beneficial lavender marriage with a like-minded Khaleeji man (preferably Emirati or Kuwaiti). My intention is to build a partnership based on trust, honesty, discretion, and mutual respect; one that allows both of us to fulfill family and societal expectations while living authentically.
A little about me:
• I am Sunni Muslim, 167 cm, 59kgs, light olive skin, fem and attractive (I say this with uttermost humbleness).
• Well-educated and have been working in the private sector for the past three years
• I enjoy fitness, working out, traveling, and experiencing new cultures and new things
• Emotionally intelligent, respectful, and value privacy above all else.
The reason I’m open to a Khaleeji husband despite being Emirati is that I’m in a committed long-distance relationship with a Kuwaiti woman. My hope is to eventually be closer to her while maintaining my relationship with my family and avoiding unnecessary heartbreak or conflict. I understand many people may be in similar situations, and I believe that with honesty and clear expectations, a lavender marriage can provide stability and peace for both individuals.
I’m looking for someone who:
• Is Arab, sunni.
• Is also seeking a genuine lavender marriage for similar reasons.
• Values discretion, trust, and open communication.
• Comes from a respectful family and is emotionally mature.
• Understands that mutual support and kindness are essential, even if the marriage is not romantic.
I’m not interested in misleading or taking advantage of anyone. I simply hope to find someone in a similar position who wants to create an arrangement that allows both of us to live with dignity while respecting our families.
If this resonates with you, or if you know someone who may be interested, I’d be grateful if you reached out. My account is new, so if Reddit doesn’t allow me to initiate chats yet, please feel free to send me a message first.
I wish everyone here the very best, and I hope we all find the understanding and peace we’re looking for.
Hey, i am 25 kenyan female looking for a man who is into lavender marriage .i dont mind what kinks one has or any preferences .. marriage will be fast since i am an orphan so no family drama with negotiation necessary ..i am a muslim not practising i am open to anyone just dont waste my time if you know you are serious reach out to me.
Im a 30 year old Syrian female
( I don’t live in Syria)
I am well educated and I consider myself very beautiful and open minded
my background is sunni muslim but im not religious
I’m more spiritual & I love life and respect people from all backgrounds.
Ive traveled a lot and learned so much from different cultures
I’m looking for a mature and mentally aware partner.
I prefer someone of arab origin living in europe especially Spain or the Netherlands cause I love the culture.
but im open to other origins too.
I’m looking for a best friend more than just a partner I want us to support each other through everything & share a life together.
I’m great at giving emotional support and I want our life to be drama free filled with joy music and meaningful positive talks.
having kids isnt a priority for me but we can talk about it if you have these qualities and are looking for a peaceful supportive life with an educated and beautiful partner you can be proud of in front of your family & friends
feel free to message me
I really value my time and yours so please only reach out if you are serious.
Im a 30 year old Syrian female
( I don’t live in Syria)
I am well educated and I consider myself very beautiful and open minded
my background is sunni muslim but im not religious
I’m more spiritual & I love life and respect people from all backgrounds.
Ive traveled a lot and learned so much from different cultures
I’m looking for a mature and mentally aware partner.
I prefer someone of arab origin living in europe especially Spain or the Netherlands cause I love the culture.
but im open to other origins too.
I’m looking for a best friend more than just a partner I want us to support each other through everything & share a life together.
I’m great at giving emotional support and I want our life to be drama free filled with joy music and meaningful positive talks.
having kids isnt a priority for me but we can talk about it if you have these qualities and are looking for a peaceful supportive life with an educated and beautiful partner you can be proud of in front of your family & friends
feel free to message me
I really value my time and yours so please only reach out if you are serious.
I’m in NC, I’m looking for anyone in the United States. Send a dm if interested
My parents have been pressurising me to get married to a man but i really dont want to get married to a man so a lavender marriage may be my only way. I'm pakistani and a lesbian and I live in the UAE.
My parents want the guy to be a pakistani and living in the UAE.
Sigh I'm js so done atp.
Hello everyone,
I’m a 36 year-old Kuwaiti gay man (very manly and straight acting) never been in the gay scene and always discreet, I am very educated and I come from a good family and well mannered, and I’m seeking a discreet, mutually beneficial arrangement with a like-minded lesbian woman. Given the cultural and social challenges we face, I believe a lavender marriage could provide both of us with the freedom to live authentically while maintaining the necessary societal expectations.
I’m looking for someone who values trust, respect, and privacy as much as I do. Ideally, we would support each other in building a life that fulfills our personal needs while presenting a united front to family and society.
If you or someone you know is in a similar situation, let’s connect and discuss how we can make this work for both of us. Our partnership could be the key to living a more peaceful and authentic life in Kuwait.
And if you’re not that someone and you think you still can help by matching with other person that would be great 🙏🏼!
Lets save lives!
I’m going to be straightforward about what I’m hoping to get out of this. I need a woman between 28 and 40 who can help me with two pressing things:
I want to steer clear of my parents’ arranged marriage.
I’d like to marry you so I can get a spouse visa to your country (UK, US, Australia or any European country) to move, work and grow my career.
If you’re interested in helping, please get in touch with me right away. I’m eager to sort this out as quickly as possible.
I’m new to Reddit, so if you spot anything that seems off, please let me know! I’m still learning how it all works. Any feedback or advice would be greatly appreciated..
PS: If you're a scammer, save yourself the trouble. I can request a verification process, so save yourself the embarrassment.
I'm an 18-year-old Spanish girl looking for marriage due to personal circumstances (more details via private message). I'm bisexual, but that's not the main reason for my search.
I firmly believe that the most intimate connections aren't limited to romantic relationships. A friendship like that of lifelong best friends can be the most powerful connection in the world, and that's my goal: to have a special friendship, where there's always constant support and communication, as well as deep affection.
I'm not looking for much in a man. I prefer him to be under 30 and live in Europe. He should also be empathetic, communicative, and emotionally loyal—someone who knows how to protect his loved ones. He should also like children, as I plan to have children in the future, perhaps through adoption.
Regarding marriage, I'm looking for something long-term and lasting, where there's love and respect. I'm open to sexual relationships outside of marriage, as long as they're discreet and there's respect and basic boundaries between those relationships and our home.
As for me, I enjoy reading, writing, gardening, and philosophy. I also consider myself empathetic and loving.
If you think any of this resonates with you, don't hesitate to contact me!
Hi, I doubt I'll find anyone here as I got weird DM requests from my last post, but it's worth a shot. I'm a lesbian looking for a queer man with a Muslim background who wants not just a coverup but also a partnership built on trust and friendship. I'd prefer someone who lives in Europe or the US since I plan on building a career there, or at least someone willing to relocate. Please don't reach out if you're not queer or if you're going to ask me if I'm sure I'm a lesbian like the previous guys in my DMs have (yes, I'm sure I'm a lesbian.)
During the marriage, you can date whoever you want, and I'll do the same. I plan to work here for a few years to save up and migrate. We can talk more about the setup in detail. :)