Pupursue ko pa ba? penge advice mga bro?
So, for context, I’m a 1st year college student, NGSB, and I’m currently pursuing someone I genuinely like. Recently, I found out that she had casual sex with her childhood friend, even though that guy already had a girlfriend at the time. Ever since I learned about it, I’ve been feeling conflicted and uncomfortable. Part of me still wants to continue pursuing her because I enjoy talking to her and I see good qualities in her, but another part of me keeps thinking about what she did and whether it says something about her values and character.
I know everyone has a past, and I understand that people make mistakes or go through phases in life. However, I can’t deny that the situation gives me an “ick” because personally, I don’t think I could ever do something like that, especially knowing another person could get hurt. It makes me question if our morals and views on relationships are compatible in the long run.
At the same time, I’m wondering if I’m being too judgmental or insecure since I’ve never been in a relationship before. I don’t want to ignore my feelings just to make things work, but I also don’t want to throw away a potentially good connection because of her past. Right now, I’m trying to figure out whether this is something I can genuinely accept and move past, or if it’s a sign that we may simply have different values when it comes to relationships and respect for other people.