u/Ambitious-trinity

Alright poly people, I need some guidance.

New partner that I've been chatting with for a few months. We'll call him Bear. Well Bear is married to Rabbit. He loves her to death and I admire that about him. He has no other partners except Rabbit and myself. Bear and I are still getting to know each other and have fantastic chemistry.

But... Whenever something changes with Rabbit's plans, Bear changes our plans. If Rabbit's partners cancel, our date is cancelled. It doesn't get rescheduled. He only dates when she is out.

I haven't seen him for weeks now (partially because I was traveling) but now our date tonight might be cancelled.

I can't tell if I'm expecting too much or if this is a red flag. I like him a lot and I know he likes me. Any insight/guidance would be helpful.

Also please be nice!

So I'm sharing my third date from my latest crush.

I (39F) packed a bag of toys that he helped me choose on our second date which involved a lot of groping. It was very obvious that we were attracted to each other.

Third date, went to a bar that ended up dead but we had some flirty talk in the booth.

Which leads to the part where I'm so horny for this man that I would have eventually led to lewd acts over their pool table.

He already mentioned the booths at the local shops because he had been lonely. There were no rules on couples entering, just change per person. So we went in. I already packed sanitary wipes, both because I knew this was a possibility to us finding private time but also I work in the medical industry.

Honestly we had amazing sex. The movies wouldn't work and there wasn't any airflow but knowing my moans were echoing out was so hot. Our fourth date was even better.

I'm not a bot, I just wanted to share a hot date I had because why the fuck not.

Just a happy post.

I went through a long rough patch in my life and relationships. I came out of it and decided to make some friends. There was only one guy who responded.

We chatted for like a month and a half and on our first date, we both realized we had strong physical attraction to each other. Second date was so flirty and groping definitely happened.

By the next date we just completely pounced each other.

We have so much in common. I feel safe with him. He calls me babygirl. I was a Domme for a long time but I wasn't expecting this dynamic to happen.

I told him I was smitten and asked how he was feeling which was the same but he said we should probably have some more non-sexual dates. 😂

Anyhow I'm happy. Just wanted to talk to someone about it.

But one pussy policy.

My new crush and I are growing into a new relationship after a long time without having another sexual partner between both of us.

I'm getting yellow flags. I really like him and I might be falling for him but his wife seems to have some issues before we have dates. She has multiple partners plus someone she may consider. He mostly goes out on dates when she is having one.

We have a long awaited date tomorrow and he says he's having a rough night. I feel it's because of our date. I can tell he's feeling hurt by his message.

I don't feel he'll cancel but it still is on my mind. 8

How do you deal with this situation? Maybe I'm over thinking.