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Up until her death, Rue wanted to put responsibility for her sobriety on someone else. She quite literally says it: “I want to live for something bigger than myself.” In the end, the fate of being Rue’s wife would not make any difference for Jules: she’s would still be a function in someone’s life rather than her own person. This would never help Rue to actually become sober, just like it never helped in high school when Jules was Rue’s savior, the manic pixie dream girl archetype without a life for herself. Jules may not fully realize what she got herself into with Ellis, but life with Rue was by no means a solution for it.

When Belly returns to Cousins, she’s experiencing more attention to herself, starting from the convenience store guy who invites her to a beach party. “Boys at school never look at me” - she used to have this thought for a while and clearly had insecurities about her more conventionally attractive friend Taylor. What she truly needed is adoration, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.

When she’s trying out new looks (pink dress, bikini, etc), Jeremiah immediately gives her positive feedback: he’s either just happy to see her (instead of saying stuff like “I liked you better with glasses”) or instantly compliments her. A lot of people see it as more shallow compared to Conrad turning away to be respectful and choosing not to stare (which is not doubt sweet), but that’s just not what Belly needed. As someone who grew up “unattractive”, according to some canons of beauty, she wanted that attention. She wanted to be called hot and beautiful. And Jeremiah gave her exactly that.

I seriously have a problem with people saying that loud and proud adoration is more shallow than silent admiring. Yes, we love yearning lover boys, but let’s be honest: sometimes we all wish we heard words of affirmation from people we love. We have to both proclaim our love and support it with actions. Jeremiah was not only there for Belly, but he was not afraid to say to her face how much he loves her.

Recently bisexual people, especially women, are getting tons of slander for dating men, and I’m considering just getting off the internet because it makes me doubt my own sexuality. I’ve had crushes on both men and women throughout my life, and I don’t even have much dating experience in general, but I’ve been feeling pressure from all of those “fake bi” comments for never being involved romantically with women. Although I can imagine myself dating a girl, I know that my romantic attraction is present towards men more and I just can’t help it (and in many cases I didn’t feel sexual attraction to them right away, or there’s been some time in my life when I never felt one at all until I reached my 20s). At the same time, most of my most meaningful platonic connections are those with women, so I find the take I heard that I’m just objectifying women completely ridiculous. Not to mention that I’ve never had my feelings towards women being reciprocated, and most of the time I find myself having a crush on someone who’s either taken or straight. Not much luck in this area as you can see.
Anyone else having this type of emotional frustration?