I have never been great with restrictions and sometimes all I can think about these days is everything I CAN'T do. What are y'all missing?
Just grateful I'm not an elephant whose pregnancy lasts two years. 22 weeks down!
Here's the situation.
Towards the end of last year, a guy from my past reached out. After a bit of catching up, he hit me with the "you're the one that got away" bit. He told me that he'll always love me and since we didn't work out, he's been looking for a girl like me. He also said that he's getting married to a girl and she's pregnant. Needless to say it was a lot, but I'm extremely happily married (sent him pictures of my husband and I) and basically told him I wish him well and whatnot.
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Well a month or so later, he reached out to me again and was super upset, said that his wife lost the baby and he doesn't really love her and doesn't want kids with her. He was calling me and asking if I would ever move back to our hometown. I gently shut it down.
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Fast forward to now, they're still together and she's pregnant again.
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With the information I've given, in my position, would you tell the girl? I don't know her at all, I don't want to ruin anyone's relationship, but there's a small part of me that feels like it's the right thing to do. The much larger part of me is saying to mind my own business.
Mainly wanting to hear from women or anyone who's been in a similar situation.
EDIT TO ADD: well you never know what you're gonna get when asking internet strangers for advice (especially on Reddit, y'all are a different breed) but thank you to those who took the time to give me advice on what I ACTUALLY ASKED FOR (which is should I tell her or not). You'll notice I didn't ask if I should tell my husband (he knows) or if I should block this dude (he's never had my phone number, I don't have social media. he reached out on super random platforms like freaking LinkedIn). Other details are things I discuss with my friends and therapist tbh. Thanks to those who kept it genuine and judgement free! Stay classy 😎
I feel like I haven't heard many women complain about this aspect of pregnancy. I'm 18w3d with my first (and unplanned!) pregnancy. I'm super excited but I am also bored out of my skull. I miss being able to have a drink or go out. I've been skipping activities due to fatigue and most nights I just end up going to bed early. On top of that, I recently had a severe allergic reaction for the first time ever and it was super scary so now I'm nervous to be outside for very long (the reaction was from bug bites).
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Overall it's a pretty mild complaint, all things considered, because the baby and I are healthy and doing well. But this part of pregnancy is boring as hell. Hopefully it feels less boring when I start to feel movement in there!