Wedding weekend horrors: MIL edition
Buckle up because this is some crazy MIL shit.
Got married a few weeks ago. Me (25F) and my husband (26M). My in laws have never liked me and we’ve been dating 10+ years (starting at age 15). I don’t really know why they don’t like me. Suspect it’s because I’m not a traditional housewife vibe (I’m in med school rn). Also suspect they wanted my husband to marry into a more “elite” family if you get the vibes. My family has always welcomed my husband as one of their own. He is extremely close with all members of my family.
Here is what they did in wedding weekend alone:
- MIL told me on rehearsal dinner night: “my husband and I swore we would never support this, but here we are I guess”
- MIL told everyone that my husband didn’t want to go to the after party and that we are just doing it because I wanted to (not true at all. My husband actually planned it)
- MIL came up to groom and I during cocktail hour and said “do you regret any of this yet?” Then said “are yall excited for this to be over?”
- husband gifted me a puppy as a wedding gift. MIL said “I’m more excited for the dog than this wedding” to my bridesmaids
- MIL refused to do mother/son dance at last minute and her friend had to coax her into it
- MIL ripped up a *very very* large check from her brother addressed to us (thousands)
I was shocked because my father in law is usually the one to stir up trouble but he was honestly on his best behavior for wedding weekend. Luckily on the wedding weekend, this did not affect me at all. I had the time of my life and didn’t think twice about all this shit because my husband and I ignored it. But now that we are a few weeks out… I’m starting to realize how bad some of these things were. My husband is very supportive of me and realizes his family is crazy. He wants to talk to them about their behavior on wedding weekend.
However, he still love them because they are his parents and family (understandable lol). He still wants to spend holidays with them in the future and wants them to be involved in our lives.
Any advice on how to navigate this?? Obviously I just wanna say fuck yall and never see them again but that’s not fair to my husband either.
Edit: she also requested shrimp as an entree for rehearsal dinner night even though her son (groom) is extremely allergic but said he could get a different plate…. My husband told her she had to change that and she did but it’s still odd.