u/AndoAmy

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So basically I'm living with an adoptive parent and he's always nice to me but one of my besties is a trans-girl and she comes over a lot but during her stays my parent misgenders her on purpose and says rude things about trans people and says it's a mental illness.

Like how to get him to stop it cause it's really hurtful to my bestie and whenever I tell him transphobia isn't okay he just replies something like "my house my full authority and rules". How do I get this to stop and keep my bestie feeling comfy:(

how do I support her :( cuz my parent is being so rude to her and how do I get him to stop with the discriminatory 'jokes' and misgendering?

(I've tried telling him enough he doesn't listen)

I wanna support her but I don't know how to when he's making such a hostile environment for her:(

(so for context, my relationship with my adoptive parent is very bad. We barely ever talk at all, even though he took me in after my biological parents passed away when I was very little. But like we never talk or do anything together and it's kinda very sad rn...and like he's always working-he works as a correctional officer but also does adult work on the side which I strongly dislike-and when he's not working he doesn't give me any attention and just does chores or cooks or dish washes)

Is this repairable? Like we were very close beforehand but after he started doing adult work we just drifted apart even tho he's still my only legal guardian and I live with him...

How do I fix it, I miss having a parent:(

TLDR: my adoptive parent and I barely talk and it's very upsetting to me but also whenever I do it turns sour cause of him working in a bad place, I'd appreciate advice how to get more affection and less ignored by him:(