Good nuggets in here, wild apparently called on Luke Hughes, offered Wallstedt+ Yurov for Robert Thomas. Looks like Billy took more swings than we thought.
So my girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) have been dating since college, or about 4 years. We have been semi- long distance for 2 years since we graduated (about 2.5 hours), I got a job in my hometown and she was working on applying to further education. She is currently working as a cart girl at a golf course. We have had a pretty spotless relationship, and were planning on moving in together in the next few months. We have both been very trusting with each other, never went through phones etc. She had people at her work she would golf with (men much older, so it didn't worry me) and I understand she would be hit on, as it's the nature of her job. I started to get a strange gut feeling, as she talked about drinking with people at work, and going out with her friends to bars in her area, and would tell me about their nights out which involved her friends with boys. So, I went through her messages, and saw that a few months ago she gave her phone number out to a golfer. They only texted for one day, and never again since, but the texts involved him talking about how he felt a connection, and they should go on a date, and she went along with it, saying she agrees, asking what he does for work etc. I did not see anything else in her messages, but who knows. I have basically planned my entire life out around her, and I want to see some sliver of hope that I can trust her again, but I know that's a long road. In my heart I do believe she's a good person, but I'm just lost with my whole world falling apart. If anyone has experienced anything similar and advice, I'd appreciate it.