u/AngelicArchives

Men, how do you view a 21F divorcée who wants a family soon? Is it a dealbreaker?

Hey everyone. I'm looking for some perspective, especially from the guys here, because I'm feeling incredibly lost and terrified about my future.

My husband and I are going our separate ways. We've been together for 6 years, but our long-term goals completely changed. I want kids, and I want them soon. He recently decided that he doesn't want them at all.

Because of this, the entire future I've been building and getting excited for since I met him is just gone. I am starting completely from scratch.

I really want to know what men honestly think about this situation:

• Is it realistic to find a partner who is ready for marriage and kids early on?

• Does a 21-year-old divorcée come with a "red flag" warning, or do guys just see it as a tough incompatibility split?

• Am I just panicking, or is the dating pool for family-minded people hard to navigate right now?

I'm just so scared that I'm going to put myself out there and find out that no one wants the same future I do. Any reassurance, tough love, or honest male perspective would be deeply appreciated.

**TL;DR:** 21F divorcing after 6 years because husband changed his mind and doesn't want kids. Terrified to start over. Guys, is a young divorcée a red flag, and are there still family-minded men out there?

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u/AngelicArchives — 5 days ago

Men, how do you view a 21F divorcée who wants a family soon? Is it a dealbreaker?

Hey everyone. I'm looking for some perspective, especially from the guys here, because I'm feeling incredibly lost and terrified about my future.

My husband and I are going our separate ways. We've been together for 6 years, but our long-term goals completely changed. I want kids, and I want them soon. He recently decided that he doesn't want them at all.

Because of this, the entire future I've been building and getting excited for since I met him is just gone. I am starting completely from scratch.

I really want to know what men honestly think about this situation:

• Is it realistic to find a partner who is ready for marriage and kids early on?

• Does a 21-year-old divorcée come with a "red flag" warning, or do guys just see it as a tough incompatibility split?

• Am I just panicking, or is the dating pool for family-minded people hard to navigate right now?

I'm just so scared that I'm going to put myself out there and find out that no one wants the same future I do. Any reassurance, tough love, or honest male perspective would be deeply appreciated.

**TL;DR:** 21F divorcing after 6 years because husband changed his mind and doesn't want kids. Terrified to start over. Guys, is a young divorcée a red flag, and are there still family-minded men out there?

reddit.com
u/AngelicArchives — 5 days ago